It is so hard to be a good parent in these troubled times. I’m not sure when or how this happened but families are so broken today and a large percentage of kids are left on their own. Parents who have rules, enforce them, provide, put dinner on a table and expect respect are the parents who get a bad rap these days. Kids who have the whole package envy the kids with parents who don’t care enough to set a time to be home or even care if their kids come home at all. It’s a real struggle and I seem to be losing this battle. When did what is right become wrong and what is wrong become popular. I don’t understand.
I’ve come to the sad realization that the majority of my time is spent playing solitaire on my cell phone. There is no doubt that I am around people far less than I am alone. I often wonder what makes people too busy to reach out. Don’t we all enjoy coffee or lunch with a friend or do those things fall so far back on the list of things to do that we don’t get around to friendship and companionship anymore? Am I the only one noticing this or have you been feeling lonely and isolated lately too? I miss the days where I could walk out my front door and talk for hours with neighbors. I miss the days when my schedule including people who I loved spending time with. I miss laughing and sharing and bonding. What has life become these days? Am I the only one?
Sometimes I find myself in a state of resistance. There are days that do not turn out the way I planned. Most times I am able to pick up and move on but occasionally I am hit with something that kicks me in my core and I am left fighting against what I will never be able to control. Tonight I lay it down. Tonight I surrender to what is and I choose to believe that although this day did not go as planned, God has a plan better than the one I imagined and has already worked this out. Sometimes I need to lean on my faith and trust that my way is certainly not the only way and I need to allow for different paths that lead to the same destination. Tonight is a reminder to stand strong when the odds seem agains you. If the wind is in your face, turn around and allow it to blow on your back. Everything does work out and there is no need to create a battle in your mind that doesn’t even really exist. Tell yourself there will be a way and lay it down agreeing not to continue to force your way. Resisting does not change your circumstances but it can sure do a number on your ability to hope and find any joy. Lay it down and go to sleep. Tomorrow is a new day.
We are afraid to take the leap out of the life we know and into the life that is made to fit us so much better. We become trapped in the idea that there is only one way, one option, one normal despite the fact that the one way we think is the only way completely paralyzes us.
It has been 7 years that I have been fighting against a school system who never enforced or followed through on my sons accommodations. I have barely survived year after year as the people who were supposed to support my son and family did nothing but destroy us and my faith in any good coming from a school. The stress and anxiety and panic attack’s that we have had to endure have been tough growing pains but today I leave it all behind as we venture into the new normal of charter school. As I sit here tonight, the relief I feel that we are done dealing with the disaster traditional public school has become, leaves me with a peace I have not known for quite some time. No more emails unanswered. No more waiting weeks for a single assignment to be graded. No more meetings of empty promises and wasted days. We are done and never looking back.
Do not suffer on a path if you have another option. Do not try and fit yourself into a box you could never fit into to. If something isn’t working, do something different. My only regret is that it took me so long but I have a feeling next year will be one of the calmest and happiest years we’ve had in a long time. We are not meant to struggle or be miserable. There is always a way out and a new door that will lead to a life that is so much better. The door is open. All you have to do is walk on through. I hope to see you on the other side.
Life has a funny way of teaching me some hard lessons. Earlier today I wrote about having a foundation on rock or sand. It seemed like there was only one obvious choice as I wrote the words but I’ve spent most of the night choking on them. I think we have to come to an agreement on certain things. We all have those situations or people who trigger us in the worst ways. We may think we are prepared to stand strong through the storm but there’s always that one thing that can knock us off balance. It took me the whole day to finally stand firm and say no way, not again. I will be grateful in spite of this circumstance, I will be happy regardless of how this old wound encourages me to bleed. We have to make a conscious decision not to be overcome by the dark cloud that looms around waiting to catch us off guard.
Today is a reminder that you will stumble but don’t you dare let that lead to a full on fall. Know when it’s time to ground yourself and redirect your mind before it gets caught up in something that really does not matter. It may seem like a big deal in the moment but in the span of a lifetime, is it really worth the shaking you felt in your knees? You are an overcomer. One little mishap will never define you and you are not a victim of any circumstance. Come back into focus and you will realign to perfect balance. The sky is not falling so do not be fooled by a silly mirage.
I read the stories on social media of objects, signs, people and differences of opinion that send some people straight to crazy. I can’t help but wonder how they would withstand some real trauma up against them in real life. Now is the best time to ask yourself, what is your foundation? Have you built your house on rock or sand and are you ready to face the consequence when real trouble threatens to tear you down? If you crumble at the idea of things what in the world will you do when a real threat stares you in the face? It’s time to get real about who we’ve become as a nation, as a family, as individuals. Will you sink or stand? Time to decide.
Every day is a blessing. I remember a time not too long ago when I would open my eyes and feel complete panic. Just the idea of putting my feet on the floor would make my heart race. The great thing about life is the only thing we can be certain of is change. It’s impossible for things to remain the same even if we want them too. This is a reminder that no matter where you are today, tomorrow will look different. Approach this day in gratitude or in joy knowing this time too will soon come to pass. The ebb and flow of life is truly a blessing so hang on in the hard times and enjoy the ride in the good times. Here’s wishing you an amazing day.