These past few weeks I have witnessed some pretty devastating events. Recently, I have learned about an incident that happened in a high school in Texas. A friend of mine posted that a boy punched another boy and that boy fell backwards and hit his head in just the right spot to take his life. I have to say I was amazed at the comments going back and forth. It occurred to me that I often don’t agree with the norm. My views and opinions are very different from most and I believe it stems from the great deal of thought I give every situation.
I won’t go into detail about what was said. I won’t even argue that I thought they were wrong. I will tell you though how I raise my children and how I live my own life. I believe we are responsible for every word, every action, every choice and every interaction we participate in. I personally believe that every choice we makes affects another person. In some cases a small action on our part can affect several people and leave a lasting effect. I teach my children that regardless of our intentions, we still own those actions. If they made the choice to use their hands to strike someone which ultimately leads to another losing his life, it was their action that caused the result. It doesn’t matter if they are in the heat of the moment or whether they really didn’t mean to harm the other person. What matters is the situation they are left with when the situation is over.
I want my kids to think before they act. I want them to step outside their emotions at the time and think of the person they are about to engage. Everything we do affects another. I believe in this self serving world we are trapped in ourselves. It is hard for many to comprehend their actions affect everyone around them. I use these sad and tragic situations to teach them how a different choice could have saved a community of people a whole lot of pain.
I am not perfect. None of us are, but if we let ourselves believe we are only responsible if we mean to do something to someone than we are really deceiving ourselves. We have to think more and react less. We have to make ourselves smaller in our own minds and remember the people standing facing us have the same worth too. What do you believe?