Have you ever met anyone who uses a sarcastic way to point things out? Come hell or high water, they are going to get their point across one way or another. It’s hard to feel scrutinized, like someone is waiting and watching to point out what a louse you are. I used to think that maybe these people are as critical with themselves but unfortunately I don’t think that’s the case. I believe they really feel they are elite, on a different level than the people around them. Sarcasm makes me uncomfortable. I don’t find it the least bit amusing but I do find it rude and condescending. If only people could point out as many good things about someone instead of constantly listing faults. Call me a sensitive sap but aren’t we supposed to have feelings? Aren’t we supposed to be sensitive so we remember to do no harm? Words and judgements and constant insults hurt and over time, people will just not want to be around people like that anymore. I was reminded of that just tonight. I attended an event with someone I used to consider a friend but after watching her behavior, I remembered why I used to feel so horrible, so small around her. People want to be around people who make them feel good, appreciated, accepted. No one wants to feel someone’s approval is conditional. My mom always taught me, if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I think I will have a shirt made up with those words in every color, one for each day to remind the ones who have somehow forgotten. Kindness doesn’t cost a thing but judgement and criticism may cost you a very good friend.