There are people who will make you soar and people who will break your wings. It’s important to remember that no one person will make or break you but we must acknowledge that people affect us. Some for the better and others not so much. It is impossible to become completely detached from others. That is not how life works. The truth is, who we have in our lives, and the type of relationship we have with them will directly influence how we feel. After all, we are only human. It is hard to be happy in our own little world if the people we love are living a life of misery. It’s hard to live high on the hog when people around us are struggling to make ends meet. Like it or not, we are all connected and how we handle that connection makes all the difference. I tell my kids every single day that comparison really does rob us of our happiness. We cannot continue to compare the bowl of pasta we eat today with the bowl of pasta we ate last week. The same goes for how we measure ourselves with other people. We just have to take life as it comes, the good, the bad and everything in between. We have to love others with enough restraint, so that what goes on in their lives, does not determine our level of happiness or lack of. We have to care for others but at the same time be brave enough to live the life we have dreamed of without the need for apology or feelings of guilt. We all make choices and like it or not those choices reflect our reality. People don’t have great lives because they are lucky or blessed, they have good lives because they have good attitudes and make choices that will move them closer to the life they wish to live. They have good lives because they choose love over hate, forgiveness over resentment, courage instead of fear. Some will continue to pass the buck and never be accountable for the life they created. Others will make baby steps until they create a life that is fulfilling. They will enjoy the journey and let go of this gripping for the end result. I will be happy when, I will be happy if. Be happy now. Make the choices that will change your life for the better and not continue to hold you back. As tough as it is to hear, only you are responsible for your own happiness. Stop blaming everyone and everything else.