Sometimes Being Mom Hurts 

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This is the last unfortunate story I will share about my week. I will start by saying every day is a new day and every week, a new week. What does not completely destroy us will have to make us stronger. Life gives us no other choice.

After getting some difficult news earlier in the week, I pulled myself together to go to Kayleigh’s volleyball game. That’s what parents do, no matter what they are going through on the inside, they stay strong and steady on the outside. The season is practically over and I have seen my daughter play in one game. I could see the pain on her face as she sat on that bench. She was the only girl not subbed in the entire game. Her posture said it all, defeat. She lost so much more than just the game that horrible night. I could see her fighting back the tears as I tried my best to hide my own. I can’t for the life of me figure out why this coach has been so unkind. I am so honest when it comes to my kids strengths and weaknesses and she really is just as good as any other girl on the team. She has given up so many hours of her time, sometimes going to three games a week and forced to sit there while freshman, and varsity play as well. Did I mention staying up until one in the morning to do the work she was not allowed to do at the game? Has it been worth it? Nope. Not to sit on the bench game after game trying her best to high five her teammates and put on a happy face.

She came to us after the game and told us she wanted to quit. I know there are some parents out there that are firm believers, if you start something, you should finish it. I used to feel that way too. As the years have gone by, I realize how important it is to make sure the activities and people around her build her self esteem, not rip it away. There comes a time when you say, this isn’t fair and you do deserve better, your time is important, you’re important. There comes a point when you don’t allow someone to take away what isn’t theirs to take. Shame on anyone who would purposely do this to any child. Sometimes I think people working in any capacity with kids need a thorough mental exam before we entrust them with the most precious thing in our little world. 

Volleyball meant so much to her. She was so excited to get back on the court and I was thrilled to see her follow her heart and do what she really loves. Such a shame. Needless to say, she went to practice the next day and told her coach exactly how she felt and what did her coach say? I understand you not wanting to be on the team anymore, finalizing the decision instead of having a conversation. Once again, she walks away from another sport, another coach who clearly sends the message, I don’t believe in you. You are not enough. What can I say except my heart still hurts. Two difficult lessons in the span of a week and another part of my heart broke watching her in pain. The toughest job in the world is being a mom. I am more than her mom. I am her advocate, her cheering squad, her shoulder to lean on and the one person in the world who will always be here for her, believing in her. I pray loving her will be enough. 

 

12 thoughts on “Sometimes Being Mom Hurts 

  1. The unfortunate truth is that sometimes, no matter how good you are or how hard you work, you will not be treated fairly. So often other factors beyond your control get in the way (politics of who knows who, who is friends with who etc). But it’s also a chance to grow character by picking up and moving on without bitterness or anger. There is something better out there for your daughter’s time and passion, where she *will* be respected and appreciated. I speak from my own experience. ^_^ Best Wishes!

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  2. I know exactly what you’re going through. I think you did the right thing in letting her get off the team. I agree that there should be a mental test for coaches. Too often the people who want to be coaches are the very ones who shouldn’t be. Keep telling her how great she is. She really needs to hear that!

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  3. That fricking pisses me off! I really want to use a lot of nasty swear words but I am refraining from doing it. How dare the coach do this Morally wrong! Outrageous! I think you should hollar, bring attention to what the coach did! I’ll be honest with you. I flat out don’t like teachers and coaches. Coaches and teachers are # 2 on the list that will be sexual predators.

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  4. Awwwww this one hurt my heart too. No matter a child’s weaknesses or strengths they should be given a chance to prove themselves. We all know someone has to lose but it is not all about the winning I agree it is about building self esteem and giving everyone a chance.

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