I believe there are two sides to every coin. That being said, we can be presented with a negative and take something negative away from it or we can make the choice to turn it into a positive. The reason I am who I am came as a direct result of the people I grew up around. If someone had qualities I admired, I would try my best to work toward having those qualities as well. It someone had traits that I considered negative or offensive, I did not learn their behavior, I chose not to ever become it. Even now, in my 40’s I still do the same.
My son came home from school yesterday and told me one of his teachers got angry and threw a desk up against the wall. I had two choices. I could have expressed my feelings about the teacher or I could use this situation as a teaching opportunity. I asked him how he felt when he saw his teacher act that way. His response led me to believe that he felt it was extremely inappropriate. We talked about how he handles being angry and the difference between what is acceptable and what is not. We have to remember that we are always a role model for the people around us. They are watching and our actions and words influence who they will be. When it involves teenagers who are already struggling with who they are while at the same time testing limits, it is so important to set the standard for good behavior. How do you handle anger?