In my lifetime, I have learned that not everyone has good intentions. I used to trust everyone to do what is kind and right but people have let me down time and time again. My daughter has an odd situation when it comes to swim team. The same coach has the job of coaching both our high school teams from different sides of town and the teams train and travel together. Only one team is very good and unfortunately it is not ours. Last year, much to everyone’s surprise, both our girls and boys team finished in the top seven. For how few kids we have on the team, this was a huge accomplishment. The thing the girls were most proud of was making the top 8 finals for their 200 free relay. They were elated.
This year he has taken that 200 free relay away from them and put them in the 400 free relay. Last night 2 out of three teams finished a lap and a half ahead of them. They don’t even stand a chance in that one. So today there is another meet. Kayleigh told him a month ago tonight is the semi- formal dance at her school only and that she had to leave early from the meet. Today, he sends a message that she is again in the 400 free relay, which is the last event of the meet and guess who is the last swimmer? Usually she is the second swimmer. This meet isn’t even that important.
What is the underlying purpose of this post? Don’t be a jerk. Don’t go out of your way to do the exact opposite of what is good for someone or the reverse of what they want. You won’t gain any respect that way and I think it’s obvious what it will make you look like. Just don’t do it.
Now, because it is against policy to drive yourself to a meet, we have to drive 2 hours to try and get her home as soon as possible so that she is somewhat ready before 13 kids and the limo arrive here to pick them up. Wish me luck!
anewperspectiveperhaps 
You think perhaps the coach is more clueless than anything else?
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Nope. He just doesn’t care about our kids. Our team. It’s obvious and him coaching both teams is a huge conflict of interest. I’ve known him too many years to think any different.Remember our kids compete against one another. I have no idea how he is even allowed to do it. It’s crazy. It’s hard enough to focus on one teams times and putting relays together. Imagine how difficult it would be for two. Last year I paid attention to what kids were faster in what strokes and told my daughter who asked him if they could try it and it was the best medley relay they’ve had in years. 6 seconds faster than the order he had them in. The other team does a swim off and the winner gets the spot. He doesn’t do that with our team. You decide.
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Hm…I think I would a few other choice words. “Jerk” just doesn’t seem impactful enough.
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One more year! I try and focus on being grateful that swimming is an outlet and it’s something to be part is 1 more year 😉 Just needed to vent
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All I can say is let Kayleigh choose which is the more important meet to attend – the swim or the dance one and if she chooses the dance one, she must give up the swim one and tell the instructor so.
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She can’t because ready for this? Swimming is considered a class. It’s her last class period of the day. Crazy huh?
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Really Kim- this is too much !
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It’s crazy. So backwards here
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Why is he in charge of this class? Clearly he is not working to the highest good of the students and their potential.
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And he works at a school separate from the 2 he coaches at. Go figure. I e asked myself that same question for 3 years
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I think it’s time to get him replaced. He is clearly not working to advance the students best skills, he is not working to represent the teams best interest or image. He needs to go!
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I think so too but he’s been there for several years. He’s never gonna go
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Perhaps not willingly but if you take the matter to the school along with enough people. they will at least have to listen. Student should not have to deal with that kind of crap year after year.
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I agree but most parents are butt kissers. They won’t get involved. I tried but no one backed me a few years ago
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That’s too bad. That kind of behavior should not be allowed to continue. You could try a well written letter to the editor in your local paper!
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Tempting
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Go for it!
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