So often we feel like we are stuck in a rut. We focus on how awful it feels to be in this place of stagnation and slowly but surely we start to feel helpless and even worse, hopeless. We don’t mean to have a pity party for ourselves in that dark little place but in a weird way, it gives a sense of comfort that does nothing but super glue us in a place we never wanted to be in the first place.
It’s true, there is so much around us we cannot change. Sometimes it’s just not possible to change jobs or escape dealing with some of the difficult people around us. So we sit and sit until we start to believe that is our only chair.
Recently I’ve started asking myself a simple question that has led to small, subtle changes. What can I do? What can I do to help myself get out of this mess? What CAN I do to enhance my interactions with the people I’d rather not be around?
When you switch your focus from I can’t seem to do anything to help myself to what I actually can do to help myself, one very important thing changes…your attitude. Just coming back into the light of hope can make all the difference. When you actually feel like you have a plan, anything seems possible. Next time you are feeling stuck, don’t focus on what you can’t do, focus on what you can.