One more day crossed off the calendar. Yesterday is not a day I care to remember. Sometimes, things are stacked against you and the day just needs to pass you by. What I do know though is, I would rather look back on a year of love and support from someone than have one day out of the year where someone makes me feel important. It’s hard to be on que because someone says this is the day to be in love; this is the day to send flowers and chocolates. It almost seems disingenuous. On the other hand, if you don’t do something to make that person feel at least acknowledged and appreciated, the result could cause damage that may never be repaired. Everyone needs love. Everyone needs to feel loved and wanted and appreciated. The question is, do we do the same for others? Do we make them feel loved? Sometimes it’s necessary to take a step out of yourself and look into that big, bad mirror of truth. It may even hurt sometimes. What is love to you? How do you show it?
anewperspectiveperhaps 
In short, you are torn on how to feel about Valentine’s Day. Try to hang onto the part that feels it’s just one day to express love/affection when you have a whole year to do that if you really care. In my opinion, it’s more of a holiday for those chasing love than those who have it in their daily lives. Once you have the love of your life, flowers should be grown at home. Not picked up from some store. Chocolates become something you share on the couch with your routine TV show or movie nights. There is no big surprise or goal to presenting them. That’s more of a dating thing.
So, do not feel damaged or disappointed. It is not as important as your birthday. [Which certain people forget.]
I think I make more of an effort to please others than I please myself. Yet, when I create romantic/sexy imagery, it seems geared toward my fantasies and doesn’t appeal to others as much.
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You make some really great points! Isn’t silly how some days stuff gets to you and others it doesn’t at all? Crazy. How have you been?
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It’s the romantic and dwindling ego in us that gets snagged on the key words or hype that goes with every holiday like the last one. Even on a day like today, I feel a need to be creative or giving and yet cannot think of anything sufficient. So, I end the day feeling a lil upset with myself for not producing something worthwhile.
I haven’t enjoyed a Valentine’s Day in so long. I can still remember one of my first valentines from kindergarten and how much I enjoyed it.
Me? In the past few weeks, I’ve been able to recover from my December/January blues/foul mood and focus on valentines/writing projects. It’s all in my blog. 😛 [Well, the synopsis, anyway.]
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I need to go catch up on some reading. I’ve been slipping down the rabbit hole myself and slowly starting to climb back up. I won’t let it win but sometimes I need to sit in the darkness and just allow it to be.December and January are indeed tough months. Glad you are starting to feel better.
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What good comes from sitting in the dark?
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None
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But, you said you need to sit in the dark sometimes…just to do nothing? Not even meditate?
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I do sit in the dark. Sometimes I need to honor that darkness and accept it is part of me while at the same time feeling safe there until I know it will pass. It does pass eventually but I can’t get lost there and lose hope
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If I sat in the dark, I’d likely either find more worry/fright or dwell on things that won’t help. It’s only when we sit in the dark with someone we like that we conjure up fun or happy notions. Wait, are we talking about emotional/mental darkness like a temper/depression or actual dark rooms?
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Lol! Mental darkness 🙂
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I know I’m loved each and every day. Hubby knows he is loved equally. We tell each other every day, and show each other in many ways. It’s the little things all the time, not just one day a year.
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The little things mean so much 😉
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Love is the little things you do every day for your loved one, not because you have to but because you want to.
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Yes!
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