This year has been full of ups and downs for me. I’ve faced bouts of depression and anxiety but through it all I’ve found a new kind of calm. I’ve asked myself the same question over and over lately, what can I learn from this? Instead of fighting against what is and what will be, I’ve learned to brace myself enough to gain the confidence to know without a doubt, I will make it through this. “This’ comes in many forms. This week it is one thing and a week from now another. One thing always remains the same. This will pass. Maybe not in the timeframe I’d like it to but I know there will always be a calm after the storm. So what have I learned from this challenging year? Life is so short, too short to hang onto things longer than necessary. I’ve learned to not engage in the things that darken my soul. I balance my time in a way that I do not become drained by the people around me(well except maybe my kids but that comes with being a parent sometimes). Do I still get mad and anxious and discouraged? Sure but those times are brief and at the end of the day, I have learned to let it go. I sing that song constantly. I even bought a shirt with those words written on the front and on those tough days, I put it on. The best gift I give to myself is no pressure. Whatever gets done gets done and if it’s not perfect, that’s okay. I allow myself to be human and embrace every part of who I am. I spend less time getting caught up in the crazy and more time committing to a solution to get me to the next day. The most important thing I learned is tomorrow is not today and today is not tomorrow. It sounds kind of silly but it makes so much sense to me after all these years. What is an important lesson you have learned this year?
There are some tidbits in this piece that I have gone over with you before; so I will not repeat myself. 🙂
But, it sounds like you are floating on a raft in a stormy sea, repeatedly praying for the water to calm down and bring you to a sunny beach.
How long is too long to hold onto something? There is no right answer. Just what we tell ourselves to either regret or accept what we dump and/or stash.
You seem as certain as you seem uncertain. Spinning your tires and venting pent-up anxieties/frustrations.
All I can offer is reminder to breathe and practice that yoga you mentioned.
Is it December 31st already? 🙂
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I’m in a good place right now and for me letting go of the little things I cannot change so I can sleep at night is a step in a great direction. I’m practicing patience and that’s something that has never come easy for me. I always appreciate to hear your perspective because we tend to look at everything very different ways. Always keeps it interesting 🙂
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Some nights I just concede by saying whatever happens is part of God’s plan. I may not always be in the right. But, I gave today a whirl. Let’s see what tomorrow brings. Of course, this gets more complicated/challenging when you’re a parent…:P I say that just cuz you do it to me.
I’ve had more patience with people than they probably deserved most of my life thus far. Only now do I seem to be losing my patience too quickly.
We look at EVERYTHING differently? That could be depressing.
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Let go and let God. That’s what the experts say to do. Nice one with the parent comment lol! I do believe we are the same in many ways but we do see the world differently. Better?
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And, who are these experts?
😀 hehe And, how are we the same?
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I can’t reveal all my secrets 😉
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I don’t want all of them. I don’t even know if I want any of them. I just want answers to two questions. 😛
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🙂
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I love this…”the most important thing I learned is tomorrow is not today and today is not tomorrow.” so true.
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Thanks 😉
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You are very wise:) And I know firsthand that wise thinking like that does not come easy because it means we have gone through our share of trials and tribulations. Hope you are doing well!
I also wanted to stop by and let you know that I recently moved to a self-hosted site and the following is the latest post:
http://www.younfolded.com/2016/03/20/younfolded-temporary-maintenance/
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Thanks you. I am doing well and hope you are the same. I will certainly check out your new site 🙂
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Thank you, love:) So far still trying to get the hang of the new site, but will get there soon!
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I’m sure you will;)
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