I wont be able to make it tomorrow. How many times have you had plans with someone who cancels every single time? How many times have you opened an email or a text with the opening line, I’m sorry? Not only is it hurtful but it sends a message to the person on the receiving end of the broken plans that he or she is not important enough for your time to be wasted on them. I’m not talking about the occasional blow off or cancellation, I am referring to someone who cancels 80% of the time.
The truth is, you never really know what’s going on with someone. That coffee date may be the only thing someone has looked forward to for weeks. That time together might be the only thing that keeps someone hanging on. If you don’t want to make plans then just don’t make them but don’t belittle someone by making them feel unimportant all the time. Life has a way of doing that on its own so you don’t have to gang up and do it as well. People have feelings. Remember that next time you are about to cancel again.