I wont be able to make it tomorrow. How many times have you had plans with someone who cancels every single time? How many times have you opened an email or a text with the opening line, I’m sorry? Not only is it hurtful but it sends a message to the person on the receiving end of the broken plans that he or she is not important enough for your time to be wasted on them. I’m not talking about the occasional blow off or cancellation, I am referring to someone who cancels 80% of the time.
The truth is, you never really know what’s going on with someone. That coffee date may be the only thing someone has looked forward to for weeks. That time together might be the only thing that keeps someone hanging on. If you don’t want to make plans then just don’t make them but don’t belittle someone by making them feel unimportant all the time. Life has a way of doing that on its own so you don’t have to gang up and do it as well. People have feelings. Remember that next time you are about to cancel again.
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I’ve always tried to live by not making promises I may be unable to keep.
We don’t plan anything now as if we do, it always goes belly up. I’ve been accused of making excuses when nothing was actually planned, just a comment in passing, but when I didn’t comply with someone else’s intentions, well, let’s just say I was the Bad Guy. Sometimes things happen that are out of our control, but for those who have a habit of cancelling 80% of the time, their book is marked, so I never plan on it/ around them. Hope that doesn’t make me sound a bad person. We just keep our flexibility.
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Sounds like a good plan. I have no idea why I even put myself in the position to get let down. I like to be spontaneous anyway. If someone is free and calls that day and I am not busy, I would rather plan that way than plan ahead and end up disappointed.
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