A Random Act of Kindness

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All it takes is the kindness of a single human being to alter an entire day. My daughter and I went out for lunch today and were very content to sit outside and enjoy this gorgeous day. To our surprise, the manager came outside and told us he was picking up the entire bill because our food had taken so long. I imagine several people must have complained but everytime the waitress apologized, we assured her we were in no hurry and it was really okay. Kindness is contagious and I look forward to paying it forward so this chain continues to go round and round. When is the last time you were surprised by a simple act of kindness?

You Move

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Doesn’t matter what the press says. Doesn’t matter what the politicians or the mobs say. Doesn’t matter if the whole country decides that something wrong is something right. 
This nation was founded on one principle above all else: The requirement that we stand up for what we believe, no matter the odds or the consequences. When the mob and the press and the whole world tell you to move, your job is to plant yourself like a tree beside the river of truth, and tell the whole world — “No, YOU move.

J. Michael Straczynski

Breaking News

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I wont be able to make it tomorrow. How many times have you had plans with someone who cancels every single time? How many times have you opened an email or a text with the opening line, I’m sorry?  Not only is it hurtful but it sends a message to the person on the receiving end of the broken plans that he or she is not important enough for your time to be wasted on them. I’m not talking about the occasional blow off or cancellation, I am referring to someone who cancels 80% of the time. 

The truth is, you never really know what’s going on with someone. That coffee date may be the only thing someone has looked forward to for weeks. That time together might be the only thing that keeps someone hanging on. If you don’t want to make plans then just don’t make them but don’t belittle someone by making them feel unimportant all the time. Life has a way of doing that on its own so you don’t have to gang up and do it as well. People have feelings. Remember that next time you are about to cancel again.

Making Memories In The Rain

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It’s funny how the smallest things can remind me of a time so long ago. Growing up I had an aunt who had a front porch swing. I remember spending hours on it singing songs and listening for the trains. I think about it randomly from time to time and it always puts a smile on my face. 

It’s raining here today. Almost at the same time, Chase and I met at the back door with blankets in hand. Oddly enough, we both love to sit outside and listen to the rain.

I try too hard sometimes to plan events for the kids to look back on and remember. Today it dawned on me that I don’t need to do it at all. I can only hope that someday Chase sits outside with his own son or daughter and remembers how the two of us used to sit quietly together and enjoy the rain.

Memories are so unique and come in the simplest form. What is a memory you cherish still today? What do you hope someone remembers about you someday?

Don’t Go Back There Anymore

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Have you ever been through a time that almost destroyed you? It could be the end of a relationship, loss of a job or just a situation that nearly drove you over the edge.

Last night while I was trying to fall asleep, I kept rehashing a time like that in my own life. I kept thinking about how the situation should have gone differently and replayed uncomfortable conversations in my mind. A few minutes turned into hours and I could feel the anxiety growing out of control.

I had a fleeting thought that caught me a little off guard. Why in the world would you want to go back and revisit that hell? No matter how much I thought about it or replayed it inside my head, the fact is it was never going to change. I realized how much time and energy I spend in a time or place I don’t want to be because I make the choice to go back there. It’s time to make the choice to walk away. Leave it behind and stop looking back.

How many times have you done this in your own life? How did you finally disconnect and walk away for good?