There are two different types of people when it comes to emotional pain. Imagine being cut with a piece of glass. Most people would pull the glass out, clean the wound and move on. That second group though picks the piece of glass out of the freshly cut scar and then runs that glass over the rest of their body. They cut and cut and grip that glass so firmly that even the strongest man couldn’t pry it from their hand. They make the choice to hold onto the very thing that caused their pain thinking in the end they may become strong enough to withstand the damage and maybe even become immune to it.
Relationships are fragile like glass. Once they start to break, the shards become so deep and embedded that they become a part of who we are. What happens when we get to the point that we don’t know where the glass ends and where we begin? Why do we choose to hold onto the pain and prolong it even longer? Why can’t we see that the only chance of ever being truly happy is by putting that glass down and walking away. We can’t hold onto something that is so broken beyond repair no matter how much we pretend it’s just a little cracked. There comes a point when it’s done and over and grasping at it with a death grip only leads to our own demise.
I watch so many people I deeply care about stay in relationships that cause them nothing but pain. They say they stay for some legitimate reason but the truth is they hold onto a glimmer of hope that one day the person who broke their spirit and shattered their confidence will somehow put them back together so they can feel whole again. Sometimes we need to love ourselves enough to walk away with the small amount of dignity we have left before anymore time slips away. I say put down what’s broken. Leave it behind and don’t look back. Get far enough away so the healing can start to take place. The tighter you hold onto whatever is destroying you, the more you help destroy what is left of yourself.