Do You Lead or Follow?


Do you lead or follow? I can’t help but notice that many of our current leaders and so called stars are mere followers. I don’t think being a follower is necessarily a bad thing but when people who are supposed to lead act like followers I do get a bit nervous. It may even be beneficial to find a balance and know when it is time to lead and when it is in your best interest to follow. It’s great to go with the flow and unify with a particular group of people but I also think it is both honest and necessary to stay true to who you are. We are not meant to act like robots. We are not programmed and have been given every opportunity to think for ourselves. It is our uniqueness that makes us special and significant so why would anyone trade that in to act like a clone? We don’t have strings because we are not created to be puppets.

Be who you are without apology. You don’t need someone’s permission or acceptance to be you. Teach people to respect you exactly the way you are. Don’t ever think you have to conform. There is always a choice. Stand up for you. Someone has to.

Morning Inspiration


You are amazing today and everyday. You deserve love and respect, kindness and compassion. Stand a little taller and remember who you are. Isn’t it amazing that out of all the people in the world, there is only one unique enough to be you? You are more than you think, more than they see and stronger than you will ever know. Just be you. That is itself is amazing!

Will Goodness Prevail?


If withholding respect becomes a practice you think is a game, don’t be surprised when people stop extending respect your way. The more common disrespect becomes the greater chance of experiencing it on a daily basis. The way you treat people defines who you are. It isn’t about the person you disrespect. It’s about thinking you are on another level and last I heard we were all created equal. It is the flawed humanness in us that ranks people. We create the inequality that was never meant to be. It tells a story about what is in our heart and honestly sometimes the picture can be very ugly. I’ve never felt that anyone has ever had to earn my respect. I’ve never felt that I was in a position to determine who deserved what. I may get mad but at the end of the day my heart wins out. My thinking is imperfect. It is tainted by my experiences. Sometimes a person is exactly the way they were meant to be and the real problem is how I have chosen to see them. I was taught to respect people period. It didn’t matter if I liked someone or disagreed on every single thing. Respect was never optional. Now I look around and see disrespect everyplace I look. It’s a dark day for me. I will pick myself up by the bootstraps and I will move on but right now the darkness feels so darn chilly. I am grateful that witnessing bad behavior does not suck me into it. It makes me work even harder to make sure that kindness always comes first. Is respect becoming extinct? I sure hope not because thankfully there is so much good out there to counteract the bad. May goodness prevail.

Which Side Are You On?


When we choose our actions and words in response to spite, anger or anything else that is a negative place, we all lose. Life is not a competition. In the end, we die. Each and everyone of us. Why is it so difficult to think and act from a place of love? Why are we compelled to argue and fight when we were intended to love. When all your energy goes into everything but loving one another, what happens to the love? If we look around and answer honestly, there is evidence all around us that anger and discord have replaced unity and love. Our desire to be right far outweighs our desire for peace. It’s hard to sit back helplessly and watch it happen. Wherever energy is directed, that is what we get more of. We think we have the right to pick and choose who deserves our love and respect and yes we do have that choice. But when it comes down to it, you either love or you don’t. I hope I can do my own part to bring peace and kindness into the world around me. My world may be small and my influence small, but I hope I can send a ripple that reaches further than I could ever imagine. Judging others and trying to control others actions does not come from a place of love. Control causes conflict especially when someone thinks they have the right to choose how everyone else should live. If you don’t do anything else today, ask yourself these question. Are my thoughts coming from a place of love? Are my words loving, judging or hateful? At least be aware of where you really are today. Be mindful of WHO you are and what energy you are putting out and attracting back. We can change the world for the worst or make it better. Which side are you really on?

The Law of Mirrors. What do YOU See?


When people insult you, don’t take offense, don’t take it personally, but do listen to their words. They are telling you how they see the world, and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess.

“The Law of Mirrors” states that one can only see what’s in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not.

Release the need to defend or try to explain to them that you’re not being whatever-nasty-insult-they’ve-thrown-at-you, but evaluate instead all of these insults, and realize that this is who they are.

Then, decide if a person with those qualities is one who you’d like in your life or not.

Doe Zantamata

Mind Your Own Damn Business


I saw a video circulating around Facebook earlier today. The purpose was to demean and devalue the Presidents relationship with his wife. The funniest part is the friend who shared the video has never been in a marriage. It’s easy to look at bits and pieces of someone’s relationship and think we know all about it. The truth though is relationships are difficult. They go through ups and downs that come along with moments we feel ashamed at our own behavior and other times we feel strong, resilient and proud. Imagine if we all turned our time and attention inward. What difference would be made if we stopped watching and judging other people and worked on our own relationships. In a world where we mind everyone else’s business, maybe it’s time to pause and focus our mind on working on ourselves. And that is my Monday minute. Let me know what you think.

Embrace Today


There’s a sense of peace that comes along with Friday and knowing I made it through the ups and downs of an entire week. Monday may hold the idea of promise but Friday allows me to let my guard down and just breathe. Each week is a blessing. Even the hardest situations have their purpose and time makes everything a little clearer. Today, with each tick of the clock, remember how fortunate you are for each moment you are given to live and love and make a difference in the little world you have created. Let your kindness leave a mark. Let your hair down and do something that makes you smile. You will never get this day back so embrace it with all you’ve got.