I am a perfectionist which came as a welcome challenge to my friend yoga. I almost heard her laugh as I walked in the room blind to the lessons that were yet to come. I love balance challenges. I honestly believed that if I could stand firm in my balance pose than I could take that balance out into the world and it would be my safety net as I go about this thing called life. The people who were unsteady used to distract me and I felt myself feeling agitated as someone’s foot moved toward my face or when the person in front of me would fall right over. It took me some time to realize that I had to stop blaming other people and find my solid balance regardless of what was going on around me. I have learned so many things on my mat but I think this one is probably the most valuable. It has been my compass leading me to my authentic self and offering me an unshakable confidence that has completely changed my life. You are equipped with so many blessing that don’t come and go. It is only when you find your center and trust in that center that you truly start to live.
It has taken me 46 years to realize that inner peace and true happiness are not conditional. I hear so many people speak about the things they want abolished or changed. If only we could take away this or change that… then we would be in a better place. Guns, the president and social media seem to be the most common. I hate to be the person to break this news but we could remove one thing at a time until there was nothing left except people and still there would be a problem and people would be stressed and unhappy. Unfortunately, people are the root of most problems and certainly the main cause of their own insanity and unhappiness. We can pretend to create a perfect world but perfect to you and perfect to me look like very different pictures. We waste so much life and energy wishing to change things instead of learning to be happy and find peace in the place we are in. You will only find true peace and happiness while being whoever you are, wherever you are , in the moment that is present right now. If you catch yourself saying, “I would be happy if I could remove this from my life”, remind yourself that you can be happy in-spite of it. That’s just a story you tell yourself that isn’t true. You have to find your place of peace and happiness in the reality you find yourself in today. There is no way around reality so find a balance and adjust your thinking. The world will not magically change because you think it should. The only thing you can control is your attitude and your perspective. Change your thoughts, change your world.
Rehashing and over talking things does not often lead to resolution. Often, it keeps a problem the focus and heightens emotions to where you can feel stuck in a very negative place. There are times there will not be a consensus on a solution for a particular problem. Sometimes it’s best to agree to disagree and just move on. How do we do that though when we are so impassioned about something? You must commit to the discipline and intention to not get caught up in a moment you have no control to change. You only remain stuck if you choose not to move your feet or your thoughts in a different direction. You do not have to participate to every debate you are invited to. You always have the choice to walk away and place your attention on something that will raise your own vibration. Be selective. Do something good for your soul today. Don’t participate in something that will bring you down. You are meant to enjoy your life. Do it now. Time is running out.
Sometimes I wish I knew. As scary as it is to imagine my last breath, I wonder how different I would live if I knew. Imagine having a jar filled with grains of rice that equated to the number of days in your life. I would have 4 jars on my counter and each day, each one of us would remove another grain until finally there were no more left. That would be the end. Can you imagine the perspective that alarming bit of knowledge would bring? If my husband had 10 days would I spend them resenting something he said out of a moment of frustration? If one of my children had a few breaths left, would I nag them for a grade or an unmade bed? What if I was down to two or three? Would I march in support of the latest cause or call people names on Facebook that I’ve never even met? Would I spend a single moment hating a President, a neighbor, a family member, myself?
Maybe we should all take a moment at the beginning of our day to visualize our jar. We may never really know the amount of time we have left but we are guaranteed with each rise of the sun to have one less.
Live better. Enjoy your life. Look into the eyes of the people around you. Study their faces. Be grateful for each wrinkle, each meal, every act of kindness and every moment you are given to live in a way that truly matters.
What if we knew? What if you knew? Would you live differently?
The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself
C. JoyBell C.
I sat outside the school yesterday while I was waiting to pick up my son. My heart was so heavy, broken, as I thought of all those people affected by the Florida tragedy Sometimes I get on my son about missing work or a test grade that could’ve been better but today I am just eager to see his face as he walks out of the school door. Who could ever imagine when we send a child to school that he will never be coming home again?
I have said this before and it kills me to admit it even now. We are surrounded by hostility. We attack with our tongues, our tweets and our posts. Just turn on the news. We brutally attack one another over political differences, opinions, religion, you name it. We talk over one another because by golly it is our right to have a say but we can’t listen when we never run out of our own say. There’s not much we meet in the middle to agree on anymore. We have created an environment that we contaminated with our arrogance, disrespect, anger, hatred and desire to be right. We have created such discord. We have become it and then we act surprised when someone’s actions reflect the destruction we bring to the world on a daily basis. We have got to be more accountable for the energy we create. The problem is each one of us. We are out of control and proud of it. Who’s gonna stop? We resist. We persist. Fighting words. This is the world we have created. Own it. Don’t look away or point fingers where they don’t belong. We have started this war among ourselves and it will eventually kill us all. It’s killing our hope, our spirit, our relationships and sadly our people. Do your part to bring reconciliation, compassion, cooperation, peace. Anger breeds anger. Hostility breeds hostility. Disrespect breeds disrespect. Maybe our new motto should be DO NO HARM. Not in words with our tongues , not in our thoughts or certainly not in our actions. Imagine putting the well being of us as a whole above oneself. Will you do it? Something has to change and the only thing we are capable of changing is ourselves. In the end we die. I will never believe our purpose, our journey is to fight. I believe it is to get along, to love, respect and appreciate our own life and the lives of the people around us. What a gift to be given this trip around the sun. Bring light. Be love. Get along. Support. Practice respect and remember that tomorrow is never promised. If you knew this was your last day, how would you live it? Something to think about
Wishing everyone a very happy Valentines Day. What a relief to have a day just focused on love. Sometimes we forget to love and some of us have become so closed off we forget how to love. But today, remember we all need to be loved and each and everyone of us is worthy of love. Share it, spread it. Be the love.