A few years ago, most people were the in between crowd. Today though, there are two popular schools of thought. Everything is awesome vs. everything is awful. Which group do you identify with? Which crowd do you seek out? Which one do you avoid at all costs? Be honest. How do you think people who know you would answer this question about you? Are you brave enough to ask?
When your happiness is conditional, the way you feel will constantly be manipulated by the latest tweet or a breaking newsfeed. People are like puppets who willingly allow everyone and everything to pull at their strings. Peace, faith, hope, love and even happiness come from within. Until you make it a practice to keep these things constant inside of yourself in spite of what goes on outside, you will always be reaching for something that will remain out of your reach. If you feel anxious and uncertain, try counting your blessings instead of your troubles. Use your words to talk about what is right instead of complaining about what is wrong. What you focus on you get more of. Ask yourself, what is it you are bringing to your life? Be less concerned with the things you cannot change and keep working on the ones you can. You were not born to change the world, you were born to love and appreciate it. Stop allowing conditions to control your emotions. If you love, love without conditions. You can’t pick and choose and separate people into groups without consequence. What you give out comes back. You create your own reality. My advice is write a better story. We only get one life, enjoy it.
If people were less concerned with what’s going on in the outside world and focused more about what’s going on inside, I swear the world would be a much better place. There is only one thing you have the power to change and that is yourself. Why such obsession with everything else? Time is precious yet we forget to treat it that way. Sometimes it’s best to mind your own business and keep to yourself. And that’s my two cents for today.
Moments ago I saw a meme on Facebook. I don’t remember the exact words but it said something like, “I’d rather live next to someone who crossed the desert to become an American than an American who wouldn’t cross the street to help a foreigner.” My response was, I’d prefer to live next to a neighbor who wasn’t looking to judge me. I am a person who keeps to myself. I mind my own business and I don’t concern myself with the unfortunate nonsense that goes on in a neighborhood. I know people who judge others by the height of their grass and the color of their fence. I am grateful that my time is far too valuable to reduce myself to sizing up other human beings. When will we stop looking at people as their actions and beliefs and just start seeing them as fellow human beings? I don’t know a single human who has perfect thoughts, beliefs and behaviors but the good thing is I am also not looking to judge. Give people a break. We think differently. We act differently but none of us were born with a golden crown. We were all born naked and needy and perfectly unique. Look for the good in others. Maybe if you can’t find any, the problem isn’t with them but is actually inside of you. Something to think about. Find good twice as much as you find fault. I bet your life would change forever.
I spent a few years engulfed by dread and depression. I was exhausted and all I wanted to do was to go to sleep and escape the anxiety that was taking over my life. Today looks much different and I am grateful for the renewed love and excitement toward life. I can’t seem to get enough of it. I have been fortunate enough to travel a great deal recently and the more I explore, the more I long to see. My spirit is restless for adventure and I can hear it call to me in those moments of quiet.
This is a reminder that what your life looks like and how you feel today can look so different from your view a year from now. If you’re in a dark place, hold on because the light will come. If you are in a place you love, hang on and enjoy every second of the ride.
Is there a secret to happiness? I’m not sure if it is any one thing but I imagine the secret differs for each and everyone of us. For me, it has a lot to do with not getting caught up in the drama of the world. I avoid it at every cost. I avoid jumping on the bandwagon of the latest cause. I avoid shaming people and judging them because they think different then I do. I’ve given up even trying to understand how someone can look at the same situation as I do and see it so differently. I avoid confrontation and I seek out peace instead of a senseless fight. I don’t engage but move on by. I don’t need to be right, I long to be calm. Calmness is a gift that keeps on giving. It all comes down to our own experience and how we interpret things. I’ve given up the notion of right and wrong and have chosen to not judge every word, every thought, every action. If I see something I do not like, I choose not to dwell there. So what do I do? I walk my own path and I focus on gratitude and making the most of every step of the journey I’ve been given. I wasn’t born to change the world or fight for every cause. I was born to appreciate my life and the experiences that help shape me into the new person I wake up as each and everyday. I focus on improving the life that has been given to me. We all have our struggles and battles that we are meant to face bravely but I do not believe we are meant to fight in everyone else’s war. So the secret to happiness for me is simple. I stay away from the people and things that move me towards negativity and run toward the people and things that bring me peace and and an overwhelming feeling of gratitude. I’ve clearly decided what matters and what does not and I never deviate from the path I have chosen. Everyone is searching for a purpose. Mine is appreciation and gratitude for my own life. What could be more rewarding than that? I don’t know what the secret to happiness is but I found the secret to mine.
Spend less time talking and more time doing. Every time I turn around I hear people speaking about what they want to accomplish. I am often disappointed because these are the same people who make plans and continue to cancel them. Overthinking a decision is a mistake. In fact, after you make one, why give it anymore thought at all? Do what you say. Get up, stick with the plan and follow through. It really is that easy. Make your words mean something. You owe that to yourself and others too. When you continue to back away from the plans you make, you only look foolish. Want people to take you seriously? Take yourself seriously. It doesn’t work any other way.