Time is one thing we have no control over. Sometimes, when life feels uncomfortable, we hope to speed it up. There have been times I have watched my kids grow way too fast and I long to rewind and just go back. For the last few months, I have done my best to just push pause.Everything changes and we are caught there in our sacred space just trying to understand the enormity of what is going on around us. One thing change has taught me is to embrace each moment as it comes. If I mourn for yesterday or worry about tomorrow, I will miss the beautiful moments going on right in front of me.In 2 days, I drop my daughter off a few hundred miles away for her second year of college. My son will be starting his junior year of high school so the last few months of summer I have learned to slow down and capture the moments as they come. My need to hurry has subsided and I am content to be all in right here and now. Embrace time. Love it, hug it for a while and let it go. Sure it changes but there is hope and beauty in every secomd. Feel each moment knowing the next will be much different. Find peace there. Live there and let that place fill you up.
Pay attention to the things that matter. Are you doing that? Ask yourself, what am I obsessed with right now…today? If your answer is anything but positive I highly recommend choosing something else. What are you talking about? Thinking about? Let’s hear it! I am obsessed with happiness.
So many people live in fear today. It wasn’t too long ago that I pitched a tent there and it was some of the worst days of my entire life. Everyday I was drowning in anxiety. I felt trapped in a place I didn’t want to be in and my thoughts were like superglue that assured I would never have a chance to escape. I convinced myself that the sky was on the brink of falling and I sat there looking up, hiding behind my hands waiting for it to happen. I expected the worst and I became obsessed with worrying about how I would deal with it. I convinced myself that the bs I told myself was true and my panic became so severe I could barely function. One day I wondered what would happen if I stopped waiting for the ball to drop and you know what happened? I started living my life. I replaced my fear with a place of peace that became my shelter in every storm. I was untouchable regardless of the circumstances and I believed that no matter what was going on outside, inside I would remain confident and strong. I stopped living in what might happen and embraced what was happening. I moved with the flow of life and stopped resisting everything that came my way. It is there where I found true happiness and started to enjoy my life more than ever before. Stop believing those ridiculous thoughts that rob you from enjoying your life. You were not meant to suffer so why inflict such terrible agony on yourself? You do have a choice. If what you are doing isn’t working, make a new choice. It’s that simple. Don’t be the cause of your own suffering.
I didn’t realize how insecure people were until recently. I’ve had some really tough conversations with people lately that have left me feeling sad and discouraged. There is always at least one person who we will never be good enough for. No matter what we do or how we look or what we accomplish, somehow all they ever find is fault. It took me years to distance myself from people like that. Although they are still in my life, I’ve become comfortable enough with who I am to not take their criticism seriously anymore. My message is simple. Whoever you are, however you look…you are absolutely perfect the way you are. Stop allowing people to determine your level of self esteem. Don’t second guess yourself and never, ever apologize for who you are. The problem is most likely not you at all and has everything to do with the person making you feel so horrible about yourself. Now more than ever, we really need to lift others up. There is so much anger and cruelty and we all just need a pat on the back and an endless amount of love, support and acceptance. Don’t listen to others negativity. Find the people who build you up and spend more time with people who respect and like you just the way you are. There is only one person in the world like you and that makes you special in itself. Hold your head up and find the confidence and the courage to be unapologetically you.
It seems like people are obsessed with the wrong things. Imagine if we could flip our obsession with doom and gloom into an obsession with being happy, positivity, counting blessings, finding reasons to celebrate. Can you imagine how much a single life could change with the practice of focused and selective thinking? What if the media reported mostly positive news and put an upbeat spin on every story? I have never witnessed so many people who choose to be somber and unhappy. It really is a shame. I will never apologize for the good things in my life. Every single day I appreciate my life a little bit more. I don’t feel guilty for feeling happy. I feel grateful. We all have a cross to carry but like it or not no one can carry it for us. Life may never be perfect but there is always something to feel grateful for. In a world where people are dragging others down, be that constant voice who lifts others up.