There was a time in my marriage when my husband would make suggestions for a particular outing. It pains me to remember how much I would resist his ideas. I guess I was so caught up in thinking it wouldn’t be something that interested me instead of realizing the gift that he wanted to share an experience with me that was important to him. Let this be a reminder that everything is not about you. Sometimes it’s about loving another person enough to spend time doing something they want to share with you regardless whether it sounds appealing, even if you are tired. Don’t miss those moments that could really make a difference to someone who loves you enough to share what lights a fire in their heart. If you are the type of person who does not go along with others ideas, you are withholding the blessing from the person who loves you enough to desire to do something with you in the first place. Worse than that, you deny yourself the blessing of growing in your relationships and maybe discovering that you too would really enjoy what that person genuinely wants to share. I know it made a huge difference in my own marriage and I hope this lesson makes a difference in all of your relationships. We can bless others or hurt them. We can choose to love others or love ourselves. There’s always a choice. Make it carefully and remember how hurtful your resistance can feel to others. There will come a day that they will just stop asking, a day that they stop trying to share their life with you and I promise that day you will be full of regret.
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