Moments ago I saw a meme on Facebook. I don’t remember the exact words but it said something like, “I’d rather live next to someone who crossed the desert to become an American than an American who wouldn’t cross the street to help a foreigner.” My response was, I’d prefer to live next to a neighbor who wasn’t looking to judge me. I am a person who keeps to myself. I mind my own business and I don’t concern myself with the unfortunate nonsense that goes on in a neighborhood. I know people who judge others by the height of their grass and the color of their fence. I am grateful that my time is far too valuable to reduce myself to sizing up other human beings. When will we stop looking at people as their actions and beliefs and just start seeing them as fellow human beings? I don’t know a single human who has perfect thoughts, beliefs and behaviors but the good thing is I am also not looking to judge. Give people a break. We think differently. We act differently but none of us were born with a golden crown. We were all born naked and needy and perfectly unique. Look for the good in others. Maybe if you can’t find any, the problem isn’t with them but is actually inside of you. Something to think about. Find good twice as much as you find fault. I bet your life would change forever.
I spent a few years engulfed by dread and depression. I was exhausted and all I wanted to do was to go to sleep and escape the anxiety that was taking over my life. Today looks much different and I am grateful for the renewed love and excitement toward life. I can’t seem to get enough of it. I have been fortunate enough to travel a great deal recently and the more I explore, the more I long to see. My spirit is restless for adventure and I can hear it call to me in those moments of quiet.
This is a reminder that what your life looks like and how you feel today can look so different from your view a year from now. If you’re in a dark place, hold on because the light will come. If you are in a place you love, hang on and enjoy every second of the ride.
Is there a secret to happiness? I’m not sure if it is any one thing but I imagine the secret differs for each and everyone of us. For me, it has a lot to do with not getting caught up in the drama of the world. I avoid it at every cost. I avoid jumping on the bandwagon of the latest cause. I avoid shaming people and judging them because they think different then I do. I’ve given up even trying to understand how someone can look at the same situation as I do and see it so differently. I avoid confrontation and I seek out peace instead of a senseless fight. I don’t engage but move on by. I don’t need to be right, I long to be calm. Calmness is a gift that keeps on giving. It all comes down to our own experience and how we interpret things. I’ve given up the notion of right and wrong and have chosen to not judge every word, every thought, every action. If I see something I do not like, I choose not to dwell there. So what do I do? I walk my own path and I focus on gratitude and making the most of every step of the journey I’ve been given. I wasn’t born to change the world or fight for every cause. I was born to appreciate my life and the experiences that help shape me into the new person I wake up as each and everyday. I focus on improving the life that has been given to me. We all have our struggles and battles that we are meant to face bravely but I do not believe we are meant to fight in everyone else’s war. So the secret to happiness for me is simple. I stay away from the people and things that move me towards negativity and run toward the people and things that bring me peace and and an overwhelming feeling of gratitude. I’ve clearly decided what matters and what does not and I never deviate from the path I have chosen. Everyone is searching for a purpose. Mine is appreciation and gratitude for my own life. What could be more rewarding than that? I don’t know what the secret to happiness is but I found the secret to mine.
Spend less time talking and more time doing. Every time I turn around I hear people speaking about what they want to accomplish. I am often disappointed because these are the same people who make plans and continue to cancel them. Overthinking a decision is a mistake. In fact, after you make one, why give it anymore thought at all? Do what you say. Get up, stick with the plan and follow through. It really is that easy. Make your words mean something. You owe that to yourself and others too. When you continue to back away from the plans you make, you only look foolish. Want people to take you seriously? Take yourself seriously. It doesn’t work any other way.
Sometimes the old memories find a way back in. I try my best to keep a distance but the fear creeps in sometime during the middle of the night. As I wake up from the nightmare, I remind myself it was just a dream. That was then and this is now and the past has no control over me anymore. Let it go I whisper as I remind myself to breathe. This too shall pass like a flash of lightening on a dark night. This chapter is over. Put it on the shelf and leave it there. This is behind you now so get back to living in this moment. Remember you can’t be in two places at one time so choose the one that feels good to your soul. That’s always the right choice.
I decided to take a walk tonight and I was blessed enough to capture this amazing view. Sometimes a picture is worth a thousand words so I will just let this one speak for itself.
A big challenge I face is tuning out negativity. Some people wear it on their face, speak it in their words and fling it everyplace they go. It hits me hard. Sometimes I swear it even makes my insides shake. Today I ask myself, if I cannot silence the poison that comes out of other people, how can I at least protect myself from it? What can I do to stop allowing it to penetrate my boundaries and chip away at a core I have worked hard for years to keep me balanced and focused? Why is the voice I need to hear the least always the loudest and how can I tune it out? Have you noticed it’s so much easier for negativity to spread than it is to start a wave of joy and positivity? We cannot remove ourselves from every negative force so how do we at least quiet it down?