Walking 

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So I had no idea what to write about today since the letter for the A to Z challenge is W but lucky enough, the words fell into place. One thing I realized today is that when you have been emotionally asleep for quite a while, walking through Vegas is just the place to wake you up. The sights, the sounds, the people watching are really invigorating. I took off on my own this morning exploring and checking things out. I wondered how different this Monday would feel if I was at home doing the same old same old. I know I’ve said this before but it is worth saying again. It is so important to change things up and not fall into the trap of repeating the same day over and over again. It is so amazing to have something on your calendar to look forward to and traveling makes everyone feel good. Just being somewhere else can leave you feeling so free, inspired, rejuvenated, healed. So, walking really is good for the soul and when you take a brisk walk in Vegas on a cool morning before the crowds hit the streets, there really is nothing better.

V For Victory

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‎”Victory isn’t defined by wins or losses. It is defined by effort. If you can truthfully say, ‘I did the best I could, I gave everything I had,’ then you’re a winner.

Wolfgang Schadler

This quote is really near and dear to my heart. Raising kids is quite a struggle. There is such a tremendous emphasis on being the best, top of the class, winning team. I realized a long time ago that it was important to redefine winning for my own sake as well as my children. There can only be one top dog, one and that’s all. My question is, as adults, why have we not been smart enough to down play the whole winning thing? Competition has the momentum to make us better but if we are not the very best, are the rest of us just losers? What are the odds we will be a loser if there is only one winner? We are setting ourself up for failure right from the start. That is why we need to give new meaning to the word winning so that everyone has a chance to be a winner instead of just one. I have always taught my kids to compete against themselves. It doesn’t matter what or how anyone else is doing. If they give something their best and continue to get better and better at whatever they do, then that alone is victory. We have to stop the madness of trying to one up the person who sits next to us in class. That kind of obsession can really destroy the self esteem. Be who you are, and be the best at that and stop trying to compete with everybody else.

Are You Ugly?

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My daughter told me a story about a misunderstanding she had with a friend today that left the friend in tears. Tears mom….really so annoying. Those were her words. I tried my best to explain to her that when people are hurt, especially sensitive people, they cannot help it if the tears start to flow. I urged her to respect the sensitivity of others and to not disregard it because she didn’t see a reason to be upset. It is in my instinctual nature to share in someone’s pain. When I see someone who is genuinely distraught, my heart breaks right along with them. I am trying to teach her that if someone feels hurt, she needs to accept and respect their feelings. The only thing worse than feeling hurt is someone, especially a friend, telling you you shouldn’t feel that way. 

People who are not sympathetic, understanding and compassionate are just plain ugly. I don’t care how beautiful you are on the outside, if you are insensitive to the feelings of others, you are ugly period. 

What about you? Do you know anyone who is ugly?

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Quiet

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Quiet, by its nature, slips away unnoticed. But once it’s gone, we notice.

Susan Marsh 

I often wonder if people struggle with noise like I do. Loud noise, constant noise makes me very anxious. I love the quiet. For me, it’s those peaceful moments that I cherish the most. When my mind is quiet and the world is quiet, I am at peace. I notice my breathing and I am reminded that I am so much more than the thoughts in my head. That place,that inner calm is the anchor when the world becomes too loud.

Pick Your Battles

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“Pick you battles. You don’t have to show up to every argument you’re invited to.” 

Mandy Hale

What a better quality of life I found when I started to live by these important words. When someone is argumentative, they do everything in their power to suck you into a fight. What I have learned is that no relationship is worth damaging at the cost of being right or having a fight. Sometimes it’s best when someone is trying to engage, to disengage. We say terrible, mean things in our moments of anger. Words hurt and they leave a scar so sometimes it’s best to walk away until you are in a calmer place. I’ve even started to ask myself, is this even something worth arguing over? The answer is usually no. How about you?  Are you a lover or a fighter? 

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Karma

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How people treat you is their Karma, how you react is yours.
Dr. Wayne Dyer

Today, like every other day, I drove my son to school. The rain was coming down in buckets and it was difficult to see. I pulled into the school drive and when I got directly in front of the school, the line came to a complete stop. I sat there for several minutes until finally the cars in front of me started going around the car that was holding everybody else up. As I drove by, I peeked in the car and became immediately agitated. Someone had actually parked their car in the middle of the drive thru lane and ran inside the school. What does that say about the driver of that car? Perhaps he or she had absolutely no consideration for the line of people that would become jammed up behind her. Was parking in an actual parking spot even a consideration?

What if Karma actually does exist? I often see people pointing the finger at others hoping Karma will get them in time. What if we are all connected and what we wish for others is a direct result of what will happen to us? What if there is a karma of the people generation and the sum of its parts affect the whole? What if instead of getting aggravated, I wished this woman some consideration and kindness. Would it make a difference? What do you believe about karma? Do you hope karma bites someone in a negative way or do you hope it affects them positively? Be honest.

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H Is For Hatred

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There’s little value in seeking to find reasons for why people do what they do, or feel the way they feel. Hatred is a most pernicious thing, finding root in any kind of soil. It feeds on itself.” “With words.

Steven Erikson


I find these words to be so true. I see it happen all the time. I could even list names of people who drive the hate train in the name of spreading news. The good thing is there is a weapon against hate and that is love, kindness and acceptance. I work so hard every single day to choose my words wisely. People can bring me to a dark place very quickly with their words and constant need to push their views and expectations on everyone else. I used to engage. I was a loaded gun. They’d shoot and Id fire back. Now I’ve learned to breathe. I’ve physically fought my own body to disengage and find that calm center that radiated love. My words, my attitude and my choice to always choose on the side of kindness is the best weapon of all. Can I spread something that looks more desirable than hate? Can I put something new in the soil that will take root and grow it with new words of love and compassion and forgiveness? It’s certainly worth a try. What do you think about this quote? Do you find some truth in it?