A Few of My Thoughts


It’s a quiet night here on the home front. I can hear the wind whipping by the window as the heat kicks on the background. When it’s cold like this, more than ever I am grateful to have a warm place to call home. We are surrounded by a bombardment of negativity coming at us from so many directions. I am grateful for this quiet moment of gratitude to remind me that despite what’s going on outside, internally I can always call on this sense of calm. It’s my safe place where I can go when I want to leave the world outside where the only thing I can hear is the sound of my breath and the ticking of the clock. A reminder that another minute is never promised and to stay present in the one I am given.

Be Awesome


Need a reason to smile? It’s Friday. You made it through another week and you have the opportunity to live another day. Find something to be grateful for and let that feeling fill you up. Smile a little brighter, be a little kinder and go out there and be awesome today! We could all use a little more awesome in the world. Why not start a movement? Be a leader. 



God grant me the courage not to give up what I think is right even though I think it is hopeless.
Chester W. Nimitz

I saw this quote today and I had to chuckle. The timing of some things is undeniably more than coincidence. What do you think?

Throw That To Do List Away


How does a project get to be a year late? One day at a time.

Fred Brooks

I read this quote and the lightbulb went off. I didn’t gain 5lbs overnight. Laundry didn’t add up to 4 loads in a single day. I convince myself that when I feel overwhelmed it’s because everything hits me at the same time. The truth is, that’s not the truth at all. Whatever we put off piles up. The more we put it off, the more buried we feel underneath all we feel we need to do. The older I get, the more knowledgeable I become about what I can say no, not today to and what is absolutely necessary to stay on top of. It is a tough balance but one I am learning to handle better and better. It’s no fun running behind life to catch up. The pressure isn’t worth trying to run ahead either. One day at a time is all I can handle. Focus on what I have to do today and don’t get all freaked out by what needs to get done this week, this month or over the course of a year. The secret to life is living life one day at a time. Get lost in the details of every minute, every experience, every relationship and there will be no time to get caught up in useless things that just don’t matter.

What Mark Will You Leave?


Everyone stop and take a deep breath. Pause. Ask yourself, how am I feeling today? It seems that generally we just expect the worst from everyone. We are so defensive that it may cause us to miss opportunities to connect with people around us. What has happened to us all? How did we get this way? Why do we feel the need to be on the defense? We have stopped feeling like we can trust the people around us. We have to question their motives before we can have a simple conversation with them. Even when we get a compliment, it’s hard to decide if someone is being serious or if someone is  passing an insult in our direction with a cool voice and a smug smile. We need more kindness. We need more friendliness and complements and gestures that show we are still caring human beings. We have to prove ourselves again, as silly as that sounds. What if we could expect the best from everyone? What if we were motivated from the heart instead of our self-serving minds? People are not horrible. Not all of them. I’ve been fortunate to know so many amazing people. They come and go. That’s just the way life is but they are there when I need them and that is what counts. Everyone serves a purpose in our life. We may not understand it at the time but everyone we meet has an effect on who we are. Think long and hard next time you speak or act. What kind of effect do you want to have on the next person you meet? I suggest you make it a good one.

Choose Happy


Life is too short to do anything that doesn’t make you happy. It is only fair to encourage the people we love to follow their dreams and do whatever it is that makes their heart smile. You either like something or you don’t. You are passionate about something or you’re not. It isn’t about following a direction where you are good at something but rather choosing the path that makes you feel the most alive. Do what makes your heart beat stronger. You are meant to enjoy life. Steer yourself in whatever direction will get you to that destination. 

The Warrior Within


When it seems like the sky is about to collapse, relax, that’s just the roof caving in ~ Jarod Kintz 

Isn’t it amazing how awful the mind can make things seem? I have friends that stress over the most ridiculous things and I wonder how they might ever get through something that would actually knock the wind out of their sail. I try and remind myself to put things into perspective. I acknowledge that there is something hanging over me but at the same time I try my best to count my blessings. When we find out something is wrong and I mean really devastatingly wrong, our mind can wander to a hopeless and dangerous place. It takes time for the shock to set in until you can focus less on the problem and more on finding a solution. It takes faith to  carry on the best you can while trying your best to find a way to cope. Time heals all wounds. That’s not to say that it heals them completely but it definately dulls that initial pain. 

Remember, you are so much stronger than you could ever imagine. What seems like the end of the world today isn’t the end of the world at all. It’s just a bad day or a tough break or something that touches you deeply in the worst way. You are a warrior, strong and patient, ready to conquer anything that comes your way. Warriors have the courage to stand steady and strong and the knowledge to know the sky will never really fall.

Pointing Fingers


Have you ever come across someone who identifies every problem you seem to have, yet never addresses their own?

 Yeah, what do you do with that? What can you do? 

Sometimes I find myself so frustrated. All I can think is, stop worrying about everyone else’s situation and start working on your own. I don’t mean any disrespect when I say that, I just think it is important to remain so focused on fixing, changing and accepting your own life that you don’t have the time or energy to dive into someone else’s. 

We are all a work in progress. We will not be the person today that we will be tomorrow unless we choose to be. And if you choose to be, don’t be surprised when your life stays the same no matter how much you want or need it to change.

I choose to be better so life doesn’t make me bitter. If you squeeze me, I couldn’t live with myself if bitterness was the only thing that came pouring out. Life is too short to be filled with that.

The lesson will always repeat itself, unless you see yourself as the problem–not others.

Shannon L. Alder