Have You Checked In?

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We should all examine ourselves from time to time. It is important to check in and take a good, honest look at our feelings. Our feelings are a good indicator of what it is we are carrying around with us all the time. Are you angry? Resentful? Self-consumed? Happy? Grateful? Are you carrying goodness, negativity, resentment, fear, guilt or blame? Has that baggage filled you up to the point that is spilling over into others lives?

Baggage gets heavy sometimes, and if we don’t look inside to see what it is we carry, that bag gets so heavy, we become completely bogged down until we are stuck in the same place and unable to move. Are you a helpful person who unknowingly picks up the baggage of someone else while that same person skips beside you with her lightened load? Are you that person who is too proud to ask for help so you drag your baggage slowly behind you as you struggle to get from one moment to the next? Have you reached out only to realize your network of support is not supportive at all?

These are tough questions, but if we are honest, the answers might just tell us all we need to know. We do have a choice to lighten our load. We have a choice to surround ourselves with people that will walk beside us with a hand on our baggage when we are too tired to pull it alone. We have a choice to remove ourselves from the people and situations that do not serve our higher purpose and help us be the best person we know we can be. There is comfort and freedom knowing we have a choice. Will you take a look deeper or will you continue to carry more than you can handle? Will you be honest enough with yourself to make the difficult choices of who you should keep in your life and who it is you should let go? Check in and do it frequently. Find what it takes to carry love and happiness and gratitude in your heart and know that to have a different result, we have to make different choices. That baggage you carry will break you and it will cause your heart to become heavy. Do it now, before it’s too late.

Allow Today To Be That Day

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Do you carry yesterday into today? I believe one main reason we have difficult, damaged relationships is because we carry the past into the present. Instead of approaching someone with today, we approach them with our feelings and thoughts from yesterday, last week, last year or another time that doesn’t serve any of us well at all.

Here’s an example. Yesterday, I told Chase to go straight to biology and put his vocabulary words in his backpack so he could study for his test. When I picked him up at the end of the day, he didn’t have the list. I approached him with the angry expectation that he wouldn’t have it and our interaction yesterday fell short of being something positive. Was that fair to him? Was it beneficial for me to drag the morning into the afternoon?

Imagine the relationships we’ve had for years. Can you imagine the damage and failure of relationships if we continue to approach someone as if they are a negative moment of the past? It is so counter-productive and that poor family member or friend doesn’t stand a chance. It’s like declaring a guilty verdict every time without ever allowing a trial.

Today, and everyday, approach everyone with the attitude that this moment is a new day. You are a new person, they are a new person and this a chance to start fresh. Be here, right now and leave your judgements and baggage outside the door. You are destroying your own heart and everyone around you if you try and drag yesterday into every today. Don’t approach anyone today like they are that same anger, disappointment or frustration they were yesterday. That time, that conversation, that interaction is over, it’s time to move on. Just something to think about today.

“Let today be the day you finally release yourself from the imprisonment of past grudges and anger. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and live the abundantly beautiful present… today.” 

Steve Maraboli

Take It Away

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I just heard the garbage truck in front of my house. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could dump all our crap into a single container for someone else to take away? Take it, every single thing. Rid us of the memories of people who hurt us, bad decisions, regret, blame, pain, hate, mean words, anger,emotional baggage, lies you tell yourself.

All of it. 

Imagine it pulling away. 

Now start your day fresh. I will be blogging more about this later. 

Time to Let Go of The Baggage

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Every year at Christmas I travel. It occurred to me as I lugged my bags to the check in point how uncomfortable it is to drag all that stuff behind me. It felt so good to get to the counter and rid myself of my burdensome bag. As I sat on the plane, I thought about how much different it would fly without all the baggage. The plane would be lighter, probably fly faster, and there would be a heck of a lot more room.

It’s amazing to me that someone would want to drag that much stuff along with them. You see it every day. Just like at the airport, people choose to carry all their junk around with them. How many bags do you drag behind you? Have you even ever considered that it not only drags you down, but also those around you? Have you ever sat in a room with people who carry so much baggage with them that it’s uncomfortable just to be in the room with them. It actually feels hard to breath. It’s even difficult to see the person for who they really are because they are buried so far deep underneath all they carry. I often wonder if you can get so lost inside your baggage to the point you become it.

Why is it people can’t let some things go? Baggage drags us down, fatigues us and over time becomes so heavy that we cannot move. We become stuck. The tragedy is that even in that moment of sinking in quicksand, still we hold onto our bags.

I say let it go. Be free. Forgive yourself and others. Let go of anger, judgement, criticism, blame. Whatever it is you carry, let it go. You are only hurting yourself and the people around you. How many years do you think people will step over and around your bags to try and find you? You deserve better and they do too. Think about how good it would feel to just carry you into the day. A fresh start every day with room for opportunity and to pick up and carry something that actually feels good. Stop becoming what you carry and overcome it. Only then, will you feel the happiness every one of us deserves. Only when you put down the bags, will you find your wings and fly. I say fly. It will get you where you want to go a whole lot faster.