Can You Balance?

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I’m feeling very balanced today. I realize now that I am one person living in two very different worlds. The first world is one that keeps a hurried pace. It is a place where perfection and the constant striving to be more is a common way of life. It is a place where people drive up to your bumper if you are driving the speed limit to encourage you to get out of the way. It is a world where parents are beeping at others in the school drop off line because you aren’t moving through it quick enough for their liking. It is a world where distractions attract the most attention and conversation and eye contact are becoming a thing of the past. It is a world that makes me feel rushed and anxious and often times not good enough. A world where I feel invisible while everyone just rushes by.

Every morning, I am fortunately to visit my second world. I walk into a room where I am greeted and noticed. A room that is quiet and filled with the sound of my own breathing. I feel alive because I can feel the beat of my heart and my breath moving through my body. It is a place of focus and encouragement and the place that reminds me that perfection is a myth and life is about growing a little more each and every day. It is a world that reminds me I am a unique individual and could never compare myself to others. For me, that world is yoga. I urge you to find a counter to the outside world to help you find balance too. It can be so many things for so many people but yet it is equally important for all of us. It can change your life in the most amazing way. We all need balance to live a happy, satisfying life. Have you found yours?

Oh Yay! it’s Monday!

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How do you have a good day when you didn’t have a great nights sleep, your phone rings at 8:30 in the morning, only to hang up when you answer and you already have a whole list of places you have to go and things to get done? It’s hard to be forced awake before you are ready with the day already planned for you. That’s just how most days are. I guess how your day goes boils down to the attitude you have about it in the first place. Can you change the way you wake up feeling? How can you add one more thing to a list that is already overflowing?

The second my eyes opened today, I decided I was too tired for yoga. Trying to jam that into running kids around to doctor appointments, dropping them at friends, bringing them to practice twice a day and accomplishing my habitual clean the house on Mondays does not leave room for another trip across town for an hour of yoga. That is what we need to remember. We must jam in the one thing that is just for us. We are constantly going and doing for everyone around us and the one thing we sacrifice is that one thing we do for ourself.

I am going to try and start the morning over again. On my way to pick up one kid with the other in the car to immediately make a doctors appointment, I am going to make a mental list of reasons I should feel happy and grateful. It’s easy to get caught up in the “poor me” craze that infects the world we live in with negativity. All it takes is one pity me attitude and people are more than willing to volunteer and jump right in. It’s almost like a verbal contest to prove who does more or who has it worse. When is the last time you had a verbal contest about who has it better? Got you there didn’t I?

Well, wish me luck as I turn this defeated attitude into one of a warrior. It’s time to fight my way back to a better mental place and I guarantee that will make the day more pleasant for all of us. After all, what’s the worse case scenario if I skip cleaning the house today? Sometimes it’s okay to not hold yourself accountable to a silly schedule you create. Go with the flow, change it up and most importantly, give yourself a little break. The laundry will still be there waiting when you find the time to do it.

Put Your Fork Down

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I look around sometimes and I see people in the midst of rushing around to keep up with their crazy schedules. It’s almost like every single second of their day and night has to be filled with something to do. It seems almost like a night at home with no plans would bring about more stress and anxiety than fifty places to go.

What are people running from? Why do they seem so unsettled these days? There are so few people I know that even cook a dinner and eat it at home. It’s run, run, run even when it comes to meals.

Maybe that is one of the things that makes me so different from some of the people around me. I embrace quiet. I embrace the calmness that comes with being where I am. I am not in a hurry to jump up and fill my day. I love the time that comes after I wake up where the house is quiet and I am filled with stillness. It is not a time I spend focused on where I have to be that day but rather I become one with the calm.

I often wonder how different people would be if they would just allow themselves to slow down. I wonder how full their lives would be if they didn’t jam their kids into every camp and sport and activity available on Earth. Call me crazy but really, in the whole reflection of life, do those things really matter as much as we think they do?

I’ve talked about this before. My life has changed dramatically since I have learned, understood and practiced the art of balance. Do I live perfectly? No, not a chance, but I do try to calm my racing mind so it doesn’t feel like it has to keep up with my racing body. That’s the secret. Once you grasp the concept, the rest of you follows. Besides, it’s exhausting running from here to there. Of course there are always going to be things we have to do so why do we have to jam even more on our plates? Put your fork down when you are full and walk away. No one likes to feel uncomfortably stuffed all the time. How do you feel good and relax when you bloated by the events of the day? Running around 24/7 does not make you important, it makes you a rat. This rat dropped out of the race a long time ago. Learn to embrace time and not run from it. This minute is all you have.