Rise and shine your beautiful light everywhere you go today. Your smile, your kindness, even a simple hello can mean the world to someone who is hurting today. There is so much pain and suffering and someone, somewhere needs you to look into their eyes and take notice. See them deeply and let them feel your love and compassion. Let them know they are not alone because you are there sharing a moment and taking a tiny part of their fear and burden away. Just seeing someone makes a difference to so many who feel invisible.
Sometimes I wake up to a load I don’t feel ready to carry. I barely have my eyes open and animals need to be let out, dishes are in the sink, laundry is so backed up I can’t see over it with 100 things on my to do list. My mind wanders to my kids who are fighting battles of their own and I wince as I think of family far away sitting at a funeral I’m too far away to attend. I whisper to myself quietly, you’ve got this and thank the Lord that this weight that is mine to carry is not too heavy at all. I may not want to face the day but I am more than equipped to handle whatever comes my way. Sometimes it’s okay to admit I need a little rest or to reach out to others for support when I cannot muster up my own.
Whatever battles you are fighting, remember you are not alone. Most of us are most likely feeling the same way. We may hide our worries and troubles behind a half hearted smile but they lurk there quietly as we go about our day. Be kind to everyone you come across. Look into their eyes so they know that someone really sees them. Spread some kindness and compassion and leave people feeling happier than when you found them. It’s the small things that make the biggest impact. Do your part.
Shout out to anyone on the verge of a panic attack. Hugs and love to each one of you fighting your way through depression each and everyday. Empathy to the parents who worry about your kids with each tick of the clock and struggle with the fear that you haven’t been enough. Support to the parents who know the pain of watching kids who struggle in school and the fight and dedication it takes to battle a system that is lose-lose. Love to those who feel hopeless, alone and broken hearted. My hearts broken too. I have to calm myself down several times a day and have the courage to crawl away from the edge of the cliff. I too worry and question if my parenting has damaged my kids. I wonder if I have done enough, loved enough, if I am enough. You are not alone. Sometimes we fixate too hard on our differences and we miss the chance to make real connections on a level where we are very much the same. This is me reaching out to say I see you. I know you’re there. I hear your cries for help and the pounding of your heart underneath your fancy clothes. I feel your loneliness when I see that look of desperation in your eyes. I am here. I see you. I just thought you should know.
Some days I have no words. This week has been a long one. Last night I went for a walk with my husband around the block. My neighbors were stringing Christmas lights. The air was crisp and the the moon cast shadows beneath my feet. I could hear dogs barking in the distance and my eyes were fixed on how brightly the stars seemed to shine. The air was fresh and every breath carried energy to my tired soul. I looked at my neighbors houses and thought about how similar we all are. Some families were probably finishing up dinner. I bet there were parents sitting at the kitchen table helping their kids with algebra homework or giving their little ones a bath. Why is it so difficult to find connection? We go through the same emotions, share similar experiences but we tend to see our differences more eagerly than recognizing what makes us the same. I haven’t been going to yoga lately because I insured my shoulder but I miss the reminder at the end of each class. I’d like to share those words with you today and everyday.
The divine light in me recognizes and honors the divine light in you. When you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me, we are one.
Look for the light that shines in all of us.
A kind gesture can reach a wound that only compassion can heal~~Steve Maraboli
When someone is having a rough time, find a way to understand.
When someone trusts you enough to vent, listen, don’t judge.
When someone is feeling stressed, offer your calm, not your opinions.
When someone is sinking in despair, offer words of hope.
When someone is down, don’t kick them again, lend a hand and help them up.
When someone feels the world is out to get them, be the one has their back.
Kindness and compassion can make such a difference in someone’s life. Be the difference they need today.
Do you have the courage to be who you say you are? It’s so easy to point out someone who is acting like a hypocrite. It’s becoming almost second nature to point a finger at someone and force them to be accountable. The question is, do we hold ourselves to that same serious standard? Do we walk around preaching like we are one way and behind closed doors act like someone else?
I know I’m my own life, I have this clear vision of who I want to be. I try every day to get to that destination where the expectation of myself becomes one with the reality of who I am. I do not pretend to be perfect or have all the answers but I do know who and what I have to be to do my part.
The bottom line is simple. I cannot continue to blog about being a decent human being if I am not going to make the necessary changes to become one myself. I have to stop making excuses for bad behavior and say no more while at the same time actively replacing them with different, healthier ones. Let’s stop calling everyone else out and work on improving ourselves. We won’t have time to fact check our Facebook friends and neighbors if we are occupied with fact checking ourselves. It’s time for a change but the question you have to ask yourself is will you be the change or one of the same? Notice how many times you speak or think about someone else doing something you don’t like. Pay attention how preoccupied you are with having opinions about everyone else when you you should be focused on the work you need to do on yourself. Imagine if you spent as much time building others up and pointing out their strengths how natural that would become when applying it to yourself. Let’s make an effort to practice using our positive voice and create the change we so desperately need to see in this world. We the people need to be better people. Are you with me?
If there’s one thing that disappoints me, it’s someone who cannot or does not show compassion. I keep a lot of things to myself. Sometimes when I reach my breaking point, I call someone to provide myself the opportunity to vent. The problem is, I always choose to call the wrong person. What I need is for someone to listen. I need someone to say I’m sorry you are going through this but you will make it through. Unfortunately, what I get is how I contribute to my own problems and what I should and shouldn’t have done. That causes my anxiety to skyrocket and on top of the guilt and struggle I already face, I now need to dodge the guilt and blame being fired at me from the other end of the line.
I do the best I can. I make the choices I think are right at the time. I think about and over- think every decision I make. I even make mistakes. I get it wrong plenty of times and I have to live with that. I feel it physically every day when my heart feels like it’s about to explode out of my chest. I hold myself and others very accountable and the pressure I put on myself to get it right and keep it together is more than most people could bear.
Why am I telling you this? I don’t want pity. I want you to understand. I want you to be supportive and kind and empathetic when someone reaches out to you during a tough time. I don’t want you to say, you need to calm down, I want you to say, I’m here to listen. Please remember this post next time you are tempted to give someone struggling your opinion or advice. Sometimes, they just need a little love and if you can give that to someone who desperately needs it, you will make a tremendous difference in someone’s life. Listen. Support. Be kind. Keep your criticism to yourself. Isn’t that what everyone wants?
I made a quick trip to the mall today. As I was standing in line at Old Navy, I noticed a young girl behind me talking to her son. I’m guessing he was around four and his mother was quietly urging him to behave. He started touching my purse and playfully punching his mom and the more he acted out, the more she pleaded with him to stop. I could tell by her posture that she was embarrassed and I couldn’t help but reach out to her. We spend so much time trying to conform to the way others think we should be. We get caught up in comparing ourselves to other parents and measuring our own kids against someone else’s. I smiled at her and explained how I remember those days shopping with small kids like it was yesterday. We exchanged stories and before long she was smiling back at me through grateful eyes. Life isn’t perfect and we aren’t perfect either. People need our empathy and not our criticism.People need our support, not our judgement. She decided to walk with me for a short time so we could continue talking. She needed someone to take her by the hand and say it’s going to be okay. Those words of encouragement made a tremendous difference in her day and as we finally parted ways, she turned and looked me in the eyes and said, thank you for being so understanding. I smiled back and told her to have a nice day.
There are days I feel her pain. Days I can’t help but ask myself, where have I gone wrong? Those are the times my heart really hurts and the more critical I am, the sadder I feel. We are hard enough on ourselves without friends, family and strangers chiming in to make us feel worse. Think of this story the next time you feel the urge to pass judgement. Offer support instead and notice the significant difference you make in somebody’s day. Be the difference you want to see in the world. Be kinder, be compassionate and always jump in to provide some support. One person can make a tremendous difference. What kind of difference are you willing to make?
I am determined that no matter how horrible some people can be, I will never let them harden my heart. In a time when people have become so ruthless, so removed from humanity and compassion, there are plenty of warriors ready and willing to stand up and give their best fight. When the world becomes hateful, we must love more. When people become dishonest, we must speak the truth. When people commit wrongdoing, we must stand up for what is right. What can we possibly do in a world where some people seem so lost? Love more, be kinder. Be better, not bitter. Be the hope in a world where hope is fading away. You are a light. Go out and shine.
Tact: adroitness and sensitivity in dealing with others or with difficult issues.
People have feelings. We are all people. Why is it so hard to be gentle with our words? Why can’t we try and understand what someone is trying to explain to us? Is empathy something you are either born with or not? How can some people be so cold while others are so amazingly compassionate and kind. To the kind, compassionate ones, I applaud you and say thank you from the bottom of my heart. I truly appreciate each and everyone of you.