Who Are You Voting For?


No seriously, do not answer that question. I really don’t care. I’m not even curious about who you think won the debate or who you think is the more disgraceful human being. I’m interested in the tone you use when you speak to others, your character and your ability to make peace and not start war. It absolutely pains me to see the worst of the worst come out in people at election time. Tonight’s first debate was no exception. What I don’t understand is how easily people make another’s presidential choice an opportunity to insult them personally. Statements like, someone like you who supports bigotry and racism..or better yet, how could you support a person who is basically the scum of the earth? It’s like an insulting way of insinuating that birds of a feather flock together and you are a disgraceful, dirty bird. This elitist I’m better than you or morally far above you attitude has got to stop. I have lost a tremendous amount of respect for so many people to the point that I almost wish I knew much less about them. I’m sick of rude and mean and smug and every insult, fact checker and anything else that goes along with it. The people whose comments I see are no better than the candidates they are too good to support or claim to hate. In fact, some display the exact same behavior that they complain about but they think they are on a level above everyone else and they can’t even see it in themselves. Its pathetic really how easily we jump to a conclusion about someone who believes something different than we do. Wouldn’t it be better off for everyone to ask why do you so strongly support whichever candidate instead of trying to demean and insult them when their choice is not the same as yours? Sometimes it’s best to not share every media post or even your opinion because at the end of the day the world needs less opinions and more kindness. But that’s what makes America great right? Our right to speak out even when it is causing tension and turmoil. The first amendment is a right but not an excuse to abuse or demean another human being. We are better than that right? At least we ought to be. That’s just my opinion but we already have enough of those.

Your Own Mind Trumps Everyone Else’s 


My husband was glued to the news while I was trying to go to sleep last night so I had no choice but to listen in. All the hype was over Trump not participating in the debate tonight and how that would “hurt” the American people by not offering them an opportunity to hear another ridiculous question/answer saga. They also tried to make the case that if he became president, he would have to go up against people who didn’t treat him kindly. Regardless of how I feel about Trump, I will say this. I love to see people make a stand. It excites me when someone has the courage to follow their own instinct instead of being manipulated by the people around them. It gives me hope that there are a handful still left that will make a stand even if it means being ridiculed and having to stand alone. Kudos to him for showing he calls his own shots. Don’t we all wish we had the courage to do that? 

Let’s Debate This


I promise this post will not be political but I do need to get something off my chest about the debate last night. As I watched the response of the people on Twitter and Facebook, my heart sank. This was a serious introduction to someone who very well might be our next president. I am starting to think that there are a growing number of Americans who come off as being too immature to actually vote. It was disheartening to watch the words appear with person after person mocking the physical appearance of candidates. Their personal insults, finger pointing and flaw broadcasting were enough to make me feel a little ill. Imagine if the people took this serious enough to stop acting like school yard children and listen enough to identity with anyone’s character. Imagine if people went into this looking to find something positive about the people on stage. Maybe if we talked about who is the most respectable, who commands the stage in a way that exudes leadership and makes America look intelligent, level headed, responsible, poised, then maybe we would actually elect a president who has what it takes to take this country to the next level. How could we possibly choose someone like that when the people voting are name calling, knocking, demeaning, ridiculing and mocking someone who may be the next leader of our country? How do we trust people who lack self control and class to choose a classy, admirable president to serve our people? I am saddened and distraught about the enthusiasm to rip people apart on a daily basis. The comments about the commentators fake tan and cheesy hair extensions dominated a large part of the conversation. Seriously, who do we think we are, what kind of pompous, cruel, immature culture have we become that instead of listening about real issues, we spend time poking fun and purposely humiliating fellow human beings?

I am not a perfect person but I have lived long enough to know that most people deserve our respect. I have learned that the world does more than its share of knocking people down and it is our responsibility to lift people up. I have learned to treat people with respect to counteract the lack of respect I continue to see. I look for the positive because there is way too much negativity in the world. I educate myself the best I can to battle all the stupidity and foolish behavior that is more contagious than the common cold. We are idolizing the wrong people. We are following the wrong behavior. We are striving to be the wrong kind of people. We find dehumanizing admirable and entertaining. We cheer for the bully’s instead of protecting the victims. We accept lying and corrupt behavior from the people who are supposed to be our leaders. We admire leaders who are pompous and arrogant and we make fun of the ones who speak respectfully and kindly. We are giving the worst qualities our most valuable support and attention. 

I wonder if the people who spent two hours knocking the candidates will ever wonder how small they are? Do they even care? I do because I think it’s time for Americans to show a little seriousness, respect, and most importantly a lot more class. How can we trust these people to elect someone who possesses all of the qualities to lead this country and to be an example to others if the people voting do not identify with these qualities as well? I must say I am embarrassed frequently by people’s behavior these days. It’s no wonder this world is heading down the path it is on. That is not to say I think I’m better. I just try my best to act better and to be the change I am desperate to see in this collapsing world. Being disrespectful, having disgraceful behavior, speaking without filters, and bullying are becoming increasingly popular as time goes on. We need to get our act together and stop idolizing poor behavior. That’s just my two cents. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree?

And The Color of the Dress IS….


It’s the middle of the night here and I cannot sleep. I decided to surf the net and it was bombarded with the question regarding a color of a dress. Is it blue and black or white and gold? I can tell you that my eyes saw white and gold but does it surprise me that people cannot agree on the color? Seriously, can we agree on anything these days? More and more I am realizing that our brains just work different ways. When it comes to perception, many times people interpret the same exact things entirely different ways. Can we trust our senses or even our beliefs? My guess is probably not. We have to learn to agree to disagree and just accept the fact that no two people see the same thing exactly alike. I’m not sure why people are freaking out about this ridiculous dress. Some say it is some sort of trick. I say it is a perfect example and a blatant reminder that we can’t seem to agree on much anymore. We need to switch our focus from who is right to openly respecting the differences in other human beings. My right is not your right and when it comes down to it, it has nothing to do with that at all. Our perceptions are unique and faulty and there’s not much more to say about it.