What We All Need Right Now


Living takes its toll on all of us. There comes a time that although we do our best to remain positive, we grow tired. Our enthusiasm toward life slips away like light at the end of the day. We get up everyday, we give ourselves a pep talk and paint on our game face as we leave through the back door. We go through the motions day after day, year after year. We become more like robots and the passion we once felt is replaced by a numbness that is hard to digest. There is one thing that can ignite the spark inside all of us and that is hope. That is why we need to come together and unite so that hope can spread as deep and wide as the negativity that has been ripping our country apart. So what is hope? Where can we find it? Today it came in the form of a friendly wave and smile as I drove past a complete stranger. It came from the cashier in the store who made eye contact with me and engaged in friendly conversation. It came from connecting with a friend who has views very different than my own. At the end of the day, kindness matters. When we start to see good in the people around us, we become starved for even more. Sometimes we can only see what we allow ourselves to look for. Your perception of life and the people around you are a gauge for the amount of bull you feed to yourself on a daily basis. If you look for anger, you will see it. If you look for hate, you will find that too. Challenge yourself to look for the good in someplace your heart won’t allow you to see right now. Look for the good in that Facebook friend who constantly tries to pick a fight. If you are a democrat, look for the good in a fellow republican. You get the idea. If you are unwilling to even take a look, this world will never change. Our relationships will continue to decay and we will be so divided there will never be a way to ever bring us back as one nation, under God, indivisible with liberty and justice for all. It’s time to take a leap of faith and leave our egos and opinions on the side of the road. It’s time for full speed ahead and not looking back. It’s time to be the loving, supportive, kind people we were meant to be. 

F Trump. Really?


We have built our kids up so much and catered to their every need that they do not know when to sit down and know their place. I have a daughter who will be going away to college. As I watch these college kids protest, I have to admit I am pretty disgusted. It is our job as parents to teach our kids the difference between freedom of speech and expression and flat out disrespect. This is the result of an education system that teaches our kids to be ashamed about there country. I have struggled with this narrative with my own kids and tried to be a different voice than the one they were hearing at school. Our country has had this electoral process in place from the beginning of time and it has always been an unspoken rule to accept the result of the vote and show our new President elect respect. I am embarrassed by our young people tonight. Everyone has the right to vote but when the results are in the game is over. What upsets me more than anything is neither major candidate came without some serious flaws including corruption. How can these kids be so dishonest about one candidate and attack another? I am all about perspective and I invite others and myself to try and see things in many ways but this tonight is really getting under my skin. These kids are swearing and saying dirty words and acting the same way they protest against. This is hypocrisy at its best. Be bitter or be better but be accountable for the energy you bring to this country that is already deeply disturbed and divided enough. I’m done.

Some People Are Just Ugly


Why in the world do I even jump in on a political conversation? In fact, I am questioning why I socialize with anyone during this drawn out and extremely damaging election season at all. One thing is certain. Hillary supporters are equally as ugly as Trump supporters. I am watching from afar many people I know turning into internet policemen. As soon as you type a single statement, the fact checkers come out of the darkness to respond FALSE! WRONG! UNTRUE! It’s sickening really because who are these fact checkers anyway? Are we not capable as a human race to decide for ourselves what is true and what is not. The absolute audacity of someone who believes they are so much smarter than everyone else. It’s insulting, condescending and unnecessary. Then you have the attack dogs, ready and willing to jump on anyone walking by wearing the opposing candidates t-shirt .I am seriously fed up. I’d really like to give these people a piece of my mind and ring a giant gong that would bounce them off of social media forever for causing riots and disturbing the peace. Instead, I will vent to my lovely fellow bloggers who offer nothing more than respect and support. I feel so much better already. Thanks for letting me vent. Oh and don’t be ugly! We have enough of that already.

Think About This



If you tell a big enough lie and tell it frequently enough, it will be believed.

Adolf Hitler
I’m starting to believe that as sad is this seems, it actually may be very true. The line between truth and lies is blurred now than ever before. We are standing at a crossroad where we can look through the smoke and mirrors and start to think with our own heads. We are only deceived if we allow ourselves to be but  like it or not the truth will eventually show itself. Should we accept corruption and deception or put our foot down and declare enough is enough? Honesty is something that used to be respected and valued but these days it’s harder and harder to recognize for sure. Listen to your instincts. Let that be your compass and know that your eyes and ears are the most unreliable guide. What an amazing important time in history. I’m not so confident we are up for the test. The world is watching to see what we will do. Well America, what’s it going to be?

Sometimes I Just Need to Vent


Sometimes I feel like a lousy parent. The older my kids get, the less I am their model to follow. I look at what’s happening in the world and the parallel with my own children. I watch this laziness among people and no attempt to even try and meet expected deadlines. I watch them spin the truth and deceive me by leading me to believe something when they know darn well it isn’t true. I watch them not hand work into school on time and not care because there are no consequences. Worst of all, I see a lack of fear. I watch the wrong doing of several influential individuals who escape accountability and consequences an entire lifetime. I watch media spin opinions into the truth they want me to believe when I know darn right well it isn’t true. I watch teachers not follow my sons 504 and then threaten and intimidate me when I call them out. I watch the system of checks and balance not follow up on a complaint of discrimination against a school who for all sense and purposes blatantly did not follow the law. I watch people disrespect cops and ignore their orders and wonder why they get shot. I watch a few cops shoot to kill and I wonder why they couldn’t shoot to wound. The world is spinning out of control and I am so dizzy I can barely breathe. I witness people I have known an entire lifetime call each other names and accuse each other of horrible things because they commit to voting for a certain candidate. I watch people pick and choose what is okay and what is not based on who the  person is. I watch double standards and people acting in the same manner they claim to abhor. I watch people spread hate and contempt, the very people who accuse others but turn around and do the same. I feel my heart break as I see the way we treat one another and at the same time feel no remorse. I watch us judge and label and humiliate and my heart breaks a little more. Sometimes I sit down long enough and it all catches up and I need to take a minute to just breathe. I need to repeat the serenity prayer and believe that I have to find a way to let go of what I cannot change and continue to change the things I can. I have to choose to see good in people and everything around me and remember  I do the best I can and I have no control over the rest. I cannot carry the weight of the world but I have to always be prepared to carry my own share. Some days are just harder than others. Some days I need encouragement so my own cup is full. Some days I need to say what’s on my mind and not be afraid. Some days I just need to step back and take a little break. Today is one of those days. 

Breaking News!


I’m not one for making excuses for people, really I’m not. I think it’s important each and everyone of us takes responsibility for our lives including our words and actions. On the other hand, I have learned first hand that the story line that starts out as truth can easily be tweaked and edited to fit the readers agenda. The reader can then retell the story changing the most important part, the truth. I read something on Facebook today. It went something like this. 

Don’t judge others.

               You’re not perfect!

The words just jumped off the page and grabbed me by the head and shook it violently until I acknowledged the truth. How do I or anyone else for that matter, believe we are in any position to judge anyone else? The truth gets lost somewhere in gossiping the details. Remember when we were kids and we played the game telephone? We all repeated the same thing right, exactly what we heard. Only the end result was much different than the starting remark. Don’t fall victim to nonsense. I’ve seen my own story be rewritten to twist my heroism until I looked like the villain. People get it wrong because some people purposely tell the story wrong. Use your own mind. Do your own research and ask yourself, does this even make any sense? Come on people, you have to be smarter than the latest headline.



Today we went to see the Allegiant movie. It felt so familiar, almost like deja vu. It was about two people fighting for power and the people who rallied behind them. They were killing each other literally so that their chosen one would have the power. In the meantime, while the people were turning against one another and fighting amongst themselves, the real power sat in his comfortable chair watching humanity crumbling while he chuckled to himself. Really, I swear I’ve already seen something just like that. Doesn’t it sound familiar?

I’m Fed Up!


There I said it. The hypocrisy in everything is deplorable. In a perfect world, I would load Facebook and see kindness and private messages saying, how are you? What is going on in your life. Instead the reality of who we have become as a people is excruciating. Let me say this to all you Trump bashers and anyone else who posts horrible things about these candidates. When the candidates stand on national tv and rip one another apart, they look small. When media and parties and special interest groups go out of their way to destroy candidates and the character of these people, the media looks small. And my friends on Facebook, when you turn around and do the same, you look small.

We love to judge and demean and drag people we don’t like through the mud. Take a long, hard look at yourself and ask yourself which do you do more? Build people up or tear them down? Do you have the right to be judge and jury? I have spent a lifetime trying to remove myself from the wrecking crew. I have enough work to do on myself without having the audacity to suggest someone else is far beneath me. 

So which is it, will you choose to rise above or will you choose to be small?