I saw a video circulating around Facebook earlier today. The purpose was to demean and devalue the Presidents relationship with his wife. The funniest part is the friend who shared the video has never been in a marriage. It’s easy to look at bits and pieces of someone’s relationship and think we know all about it. The truth though is relationships are difficult. They go through ups and downs that come along with moments we feel ashamed at our own behavior and other times we feel strong, resilient and proud. Imagine if we all turned our time and attention inward. What difference would be made if we stopped watching and judging other people and worked on our own relationships. In a world where we mind everyone else’s business, maybe it’s time to pause and focus our mind on working on ourselves. And that is my Monday minute. Let me know what you think.
My eyes popped open in the middle of the night resulting in hours of lying there imprisoned by my own mind. The more time passed by, the darker my thoughts got. Little suggestions were blown so out of proportion, there wasn’t a single chance I would get back to sleep again. It’s as if the mind has an imagination of its own that far exceeds actual reality.
I went to bed last night after reading several Facebook posts. We all have those friends who like to make a point especially after a major news drop. Not only do they have to comment and shove their opinion down the throats of their friends and family, they then have to update and restate it in different words. It goes something similar to this every single time. The sky is falling. It’s over. The world as we know it is ending. Their negativity is infectious and somehow they pull us into a storm of their own creation. It reminds me of last night where I was trapped in a black hole of dread and negativity.
This morning as I awaken, I intentionally remind myself of how blessed I am. I have to do my part to make sure the Chicken Little’s of the world do not break my spirit. I pray I can keep an internal calm that measures what is important and what I need to let skate on by. I am given so little time housed in this body and I am determined to not fall victim to the nonsense that surrounds me. Life is challenging enough without exaggerating and emphasizing that which should be given little or no attention. How we spend our fleeting time says more about each one of us than what we believe or the battles we sign up to fight. Be the peace that swallows the storm until all you can do is feel the warmth and see the beautiful light. Sorry Little, the sky is not falling no matter how many times you try and convince me it is. And if by some chance it does, I will be gratefulI didn’t spend my time wasted on worrying about it just so the last words I utter could be, “See! I was right”. Live mindfully. Look for the good and don’t ever fall victim to someone else’s negativity. We need more light so we wake up and recognize we don’t have to be in the darkness anymore.
I make a real effort to see the good in all things. I do believe that there is plenty out there to celebrate and be grateful for. Occasionally though, after a long weekend, I wake up tired on Monday morning. I mistakenly turn to Facebook to start my day and there it is, blatantly staring back at me. Ugliness is a real detriment to humanity. What concerns me though is that people wear ugliness on their sleeve as if it were fashionable. When did it become popular and fashionable to be ugly? Why are these people who are ugly in their thoughts and words our strongest voices and our growing leaders? We have to stop giving these kinds of people merit and validity and call them what they are, ugly.
Today, my wish is that your inner beauty shines brighter than any ugliness you encounter. We cannot allow ugliness of spirit be the norm or the popular trend. We need to make a statement and be an example of inner beauty that shines a light on all that is ugly so that ugliness will no longer be applauded, celebrated and popular. Do your part and be the change we so desperately need in these troubling times. Shine your light. Shine it now.
It’s really a test for me when the first thing that shows up in the morning is confrontation and bad energy. I’ve come to that place in life where I have no interest in that anymore. There are very few people worth salvaging my inner peace for and I’ve been removing the ones I can a little more each day. It’s not that I can’t be friends with people who feel different than I do, I am simply not in the game of proving who is better, smarter or has more value. To have to spend comment after comment, tit for tat over complete nonsense is not how I want to spend my time and energy. If we disagree, we disagree. Game over. Move on. So what. Big deal. Friends accept a difference in opinion and they know when their friendship is worth more and they simply move on. Why the constant bickering? Are we more obsessed with being right than we are with being kind? I’m afraid so.
There are times in my life when it is necessary to clean the clutter. Clutter makes my skin crawl and my pulse race. When I am in the middle of a mess, my chest tightens and my breathing is labored. Last night I made a huge decision to clear it out. For me, this world is a mess. The human experiment is a mess. Facebook is a mess. Media is a mess. Clutter comes in many forms. It comes in thoughts, people, objects. Clutter for me is hostility, negativity, confrontation, arrogance, and anything else that makes me break out in that dreaded, unwanted sweat. The truth is, it is my responsibility to say no to the things that make my heart hurt and yes to the ones that feel right with my soul. Today is a beautiful day for me. It looks and feels very different from several days that came before. We have to declutter our minds, our bodies, and our heart so we can hear that tiny voice inside that often gets drown out by all the noise. Everyone has the right to live in peace. Sometimes it’s necessary to create that peaceful space and to build a fence around it to keep it sacred and to keep yourself safe.
I woke up this morning.
Some days I awaken to anxiety. I guess I bring it on myself when the first thing I do is check email and hop onto Facebook. The truth is this argumentative, in your face, haha, I’m making my point, posting is enough to make me never want to step foot out of bed again. This constant, I’m better than you or she’s better than him bickering and defending of total strangers is complete nonsense. There are so many adults acting like little children. One more tantrum, making another point, having the last word…it’s killing us all. Sometimes I think we would be better off if we couldn’t communicate or share so much of ourselves. We are sharing the WRONG parts of ourselves. That is the problem. And what worse? It gives us a sense of superiority. We enjoy fueling a fire that is destroying humanity to the very core. People don’t seem to know when enough is enough and though many cheer that behavior on, my insides scream please stop. No more. I cannot for the life of me figure out what is so wrong with people today. We are so busy being up in everyone else’s business that we forget to take care of our own. Just because we are entitled to our own opinion does not mean we need to shove it down everybody’s throats by insulting those we know already don’t agree because we’ve made the same point over a million times or arguing with someone to invalidate a point when their mind and their main people think exactly the same. Less talk, less opinion, less tension, less bullshit, less baiting tweets and posts and speeches and nonsense. More of what matters. Do we even know what that is anymore or is tearing the country, the world and the people apart exactly what matters most? Actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words but they are being drowned out by the nonsense clutter. Be accountable for who you are. Someone else is not your concern. You work on you. Speak less but say more. Be a lighthouse and not another boat lost out in a sea of muck. Be a role model and example that so many desperately need today. There are far too many of the outspoken, ruffle feathers kind. Time to start a new movement of behavior and it starts with you. Be bigger. Be better. Please, I need you to be.
Why in the world do I even jump in on a political conversation? In fact, I am questioning why I socialize with anyone during this drawn out and extremely damaging election season at all. One thing is certain. Hillary supporters are equally as ugly as Trump supporters. I am watching from afar many people I know turning into internet policemen. As soon as you type a single statement, the fact checkers come out of the darkness to respond FALSE! WRONG! UNTRUE! It’s sickening really because who are these fact checkers anyway? Are we not capable as a human race to decide for ourselves what is true and what is not. The absolute audacity of someone who believes they are so much smarter than everyone else. It’s insulting, condescending and unnecessary. Then you have the attack dogs, ready and willing to jump on anyone walking by wearing the opposing candidates t-shirt .I am seriously fed up. I’d really like to give these people a piece of my mind and ring a giant gong that would bounce them off of social media forever for causing riots and disturbing the peace. Instead, I will vent to my lovely fellow bloggers who offer nothing more than respect and support. I feel so much better already. Thanks for letting me vent. Oh and don’t be ugly! We have enough of that already.
I think most of us have that tingly sense that alerts us to when we say something we probably should have kept to ourselves. Self control is becoming a thing of the past and the result is the uncomfortableness that is often felt when we are part of conversations either in person or on social media. I was following a thread on Facebook earlier and a third of the comments would have been better left unsaid. I think people forget to ask themselves the important questions before they go and open their sarcastic mouths. Are your words kind? Are they necessary? Will they add value to the conversation? Will they insult or demean another human being? People have to stop posting and blurting things out without considering the effect it will have on the people around them. The energy lately is just not good and it is destroying relationships one comment at a time. Have some respect. Show some restraint and be accountable for the energy you bring to a particular space. Ask yourself one question? Would you like to be served back what you seem to love to dish out? Someday you will get what you give so why not give what you want to get?
No seriously, do not answer that question. I really don’t care. I’m not even curious about who you think won the debate or who you think is the more disgraceful human being. I’m interested in the tone you use when you speak to others, your character and your ability to make peace and not start war. It absolutely pains me to see the worst of the worst come out in people at election time. Tonight’s first debate was no exception. What I don’t understand is how easily people make another’s presidential choice an opportunity to insult them personally. Statements like, someone like you who supports bigotry and racism..or better yet, how could you support a person who is basically the scum of the earth? It’s like an insulting way of insinuating that birds of a feather flock together and you are a disgraceful, dirty bird. This elitist I’m better than you or morally far above you attitude has got to stop. I have lost a tremendous amount of respect for so many people to the point that I almost wish I knew much less about them. I’m sick of rude and mean and smug and every insult, fact checker and anything else that goes along with it. The people whose comments I see are no better than the candidates they are too good to support or claim to hate. In fact, some display the exact same behavior that they complain about but they think they are on a level above everyone else and they can’t even see it in themselves. Its pathetic really how easily we jump to a conclusion about someone who believes something different than we do. Wouldn’t it be better off for everyone to ask why do you so strongly support whichever candidate instead of trying to demean and insult them when their choice is not the same as yours? Sometimes it’s best to not share every media post or even your opinion because at the end of the day the world needs less opinions and more kindness. But that’s what makes America great right? Our right to speak out even when it is causing tension and turmoil. The first amendment is a right but not an excuse to abuse or demean another human being. We are better than that right? At least we ought to be. That’s just my opinion but we already have enough of those.
We have become people who live to share. Ask yourself one very important question today. What is it that you are sharing? Is it an offensive article about the candidate you don’t like? Another bloggers post? Is it your opinion? Your time? Your money? Your service? Your criticism? Your support? Love?
Share something worthwhile today. Be honest with who you are and what you contribute to a fragile world.