A Letter From The Future

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This is me writing you this letter on the last day of 2016. You made some amazing changes in your life this year. You found your happy place and you set up camp there. You remembered that the only thing that can get to you is the decision to let something affect you. You make your own choices now and you have learned that the only thing you can control is your own thoughts. What a difference staying calm and focused has made. You have stepped back and let everyone be more accountable for themselves. You have embraced that the same thing can be done many ways and your way is not the only way. You have spent more time going out at night and enjoying your life rather than sitting home worrying about things you cannot change. You let the small things slip away and you kept your eye on the prize of being present in your own life. You are different now. You are strong, confident and filled with a sense of peace that the strongest winds couldn’t blow away. I knew you could do it with determination and will and you are finally in a place that feels good, a place you want to stay. Welcome. I have been waiting for you to arrive.

They say hindsight is 20/20 so why not give it a try? Set a positive intention for the coming year. 

You Don’t Live There Anymore

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This is a post I wrote a while ago but now that the holidays are approaching, I think it is worth sharing again. Don’t ruin reality with expectations Buckle up, sit back and just enjoy the ride.
Repeat after me: You cannot re-live the past. One more time. You cannot re-live the past.
Sometimes, a moment in time touches me so deeply that I want to repeat it. I tell myself this ridiculous nonsense that if I go through the same motions, I will feel the same feelings. 
I was looking back at old pictures in Timehop and some of those pictures brought me back to days I was truly happy. Year after year I try and recreate those moments and deep down its just impossible. That moment, the one thing that makes me completely happy is dependent on too many things I cannot control. If it involves other people, it is dependent on their attitude, words, mood. You name it. I have to let go of holding onto to an idea and trying to stretch it from the past all the way into the future. There’s too much that happens along the way and expectations, well, we know what they do. They disappoint almost every single time. It’s so much better to start with a clean slate and just let life unfold. We can’t manipulate or control it. We can’t grab onto it to make it last longer than it will. We can’t undo it or redo it. No matter how hard we try, I try, it will never happen the way I will it to.
If something is good, enjoy it with every ounce of your being. Be there completely and let it imprint on your mind and heart. If something is bad, be there completely too. Feel the pain and feel it completely. Learn the lesson and move on. Don’t look back too often and don’t squint to see what’s up ahead. Just be wherever you are.
Repeat after me: Stop trying to re-create the past. You don’t live there anymore.

Step Into the Light

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One thing I know for sure is that you can sit back and let things happen while feeling your life is completely out of control or you can come up with an action plan and feel like there is hope for change. It’s easy to get discouraged and believe you have exhausted every avenue when it comes to moving forward. The mind can work for or against you and it is up to your own common sense to determine what is truth and what is a lie. There is always hope. There is always something else to do or something else to try. Don’t ever let yourself believe anything else. Surviving in a world that lacks hope is a very dark place. Step into the light. You are the light. All the answers you need are within yourself.

One Thing At A Time

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After feeling knocked down yesterday, I’ve decided today will be a one foot in front of the other day. It’s easy to draw that black cloud of doom and gloom directly over my head when I focus too far in the future. It’s no wonder I get swept away in feeling so overwhelmed. It’s important to take things one day at a time so I can keep moving slowly in the right direction. Slowly is better than not moving at all. Projecting thoughts away from today results in feeling stuck and helpless with no way out. Taking one thing at a time allows me the energy, perseverance, and confidence to tackle everything I need to do today so I can walk into tomorrow feeling prepared and ready for whatever arrives. Don’t defeat yourself and your purpose by putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. That is guaranteed to get you nowhere. Believe me, I know.

The Future Holds My Hand

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How the reckless winds of change come and go
As years, my life, does disappear with time
If I could look ahead , if I could know
Would years flow together, like words in a rhyme

Are there years in my life, life in my years
Have I lived my life well, have I loved often
My eyes, are they happy or filled with tears
Or did my heart stay closed, open, soften

I have to live better, starting right now
The future is what I mold, my design
Stop wasting time, time wasting me, how
My mind and my spirit, they must align

Little things seem big, and big things get little,
The years of my life, starting to whittle

This is the last day of the poetry challenge. Many are curious about the criteria for the poems. This one is a sonnet, composed of 14 lines in a rhyming pattern of ABAB, BCBC, CDCD, EE. The prompt: future
Today’s device: chiasmus (key-AHS-mus). At its simplest, a chiasmus is essentially a reversal, an inverted crossing. Example: mind on my money and my money on my mind. This one was the hardest for me to write.

Where Do You Live?

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When it comes to my crazy family, both my daughter and husband can watch the same movie over and over. Don’t get me wrong, I love movies. It is the easiest, cheapest vacation from the real world I can book in a moments notice. I can lose myself there and become so wrapped up in the storyline, I forget I have a care in the world. I cannot however stand to watch a movie more than two times. I had to laugh as I thought about this as we watched Guardians of the Galaxy today. My movie watching habits parallel with my view on life. I don’t like to revisit the past and hash out things that will never be changed. Sure, I reminisce often about the memories that are most precious to me but when it comes to resurfacing past problems or arguments or difficult times, I really have no interest at all in going back. I am an eyes on the road kind of girl and I always focus on what is right there in front of me. No need to keep looking back unless it is to cherish the positive events or a valuable life lesson that came from a difficult time. Maybe it’s a silly correlation but it is one that ran through my mind today. Where do you spend most of your time? Past, present or future? You know the saying…how can we get to the next chapter if we are constantly rereading the same ones?

A Thing of the Past

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I am baffled why so many of us are fixated on the past. Can we change it really? If we focus on it, are the feelings and pain that live there going to magically be released and healed? I believe what we focus on becomes our reality. We could have the most innocent intentions but revisiting and living in the past is like a gigantic wasteful trap. Why do we have to remember? Why do we have to dig it up? Why do we have to rehash and keep something that should never have happened alive? I just don’t get it. I’m not even sure I agree teaching history anymore. Every day is a new start, a day to wake up with the gift of life placed delicately in our clumsy little hands. Can we change the future by visiting the past? Will it prevent us from making the same mistakes or will it just be a reason to walk around life with a chip on our shoulder allowing us to believe we are victims? We are all victims but we are also warriors. Can we not stand on our strong legs and look to the future with a new powerful weapon of change? Maybe it is letting go and becoming part of the movement of rebuilding a better world that should be a place we visit often. What can we do today to make the world a better place? What can we do in this moment that will assure our kids will live in a healthier more loving world?

The serenity prayer has always been one of my favorites. I try and live by those words of enlightenment and strength. I believe the words are worth repeating each and everyday.

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