I have spent forty plus years searching for the meaning of things. As much as I have tried to make sense out of the experiences of this life, they never have or never will make sense. I get that now. Just because I come up with an exceptional notion of why something is the way it is, does not in the least ever make it true. I realize now I have to stop labeling things and defining things and just try and deal with them in the passing moment that is the here and now. I could waste so much time trying to find the answer to something that was never even a question in the first place. I remind myself often that the mind has an agenda of its own and that is to over think. The problem is there are so many more parts to me and my job is to keep them all balanced. Should I see with my eyes or with my heart? Should I think with my mind and opinions or be led by my soul? It’s a battle and one part is always trying to take over. I believe that is how our vision or perception of life and people can really get tainted. Add our oversized ego to that and our opinions and views become a whole lot smaller.
I guess for me, I have found peace judging and assuming less and observing and accepting more. I know I don’t have all of the answers. I know my thoughts can’t all be right. I accept that others are different than me and I must find a way to accept their truth as much as my own. I can’t shove my opinions on anyone else and who am I to think I have the slightest right to judge another? People are always finding fault. I can’t help but wonder if they are like that with themselves as well. For me, it is no way to live. I am less concerned with what makes others tick and what encourages people to behave and speak the way they do. It is not my concern and none of my business. It’s bad enough I judge myself. We are not here to pick out flaws. We are not here to find all the answers. I believe we are here to love and respect and experience and in the midst of all of that to find our own version of peace. Does that make me right? Definitely not but I like to believe that is a good enough purpose as any I have ever heard. Come from a place of love and acceptance. One of my new mantras this year. The other is, don’t be an asshole. I follow Jennifer Pastiloff on Facebook and she does this video series based on this premise. It’s motivational and a reminder to do your best, be your best version of yourself and don’t take life too seriously. Learn and move on and that’s just what I am trying to do.
Maybe there is no real meaning of life. Maybe it is much simpler than we make it out to be. Perhaps it is simply living in each and every moment and not wasting time just going through the motions. There is a difference, don’t you think?