Let Your Heart Be Your Guide


I thought about something today. Often times I hear people say they hope people will get what’s coming to them. I have one simple question. How in the world do we get to decide what it is we feel someone deserves? Can you imagine what kind of world we would live in if we could really inflict our wrath toward someone we feel deserves it? Can you imagine a world where we turned around and treated everyone exactly the way they treated us?What if that person treats us with such disrespect that they destroy a small part of us? Do we really want to turn around and inflict that same harm on someone to cause them the same pain they caused us? What if we treated everyone the way we want to be treated? What if we afforded the benefit to others we wish others would afford to us? What if we wished everyone we came across love, happiness and a peaceful heart?

I hear people debate all the time about whether or not we need to toughen up our kids. We don’t want to raise soft, weak individuals that express fear and pain. We want to teach them the world is a difficult place and they need to suck it up. Well, I strongly disagree.I want to raise kids to make the world a gentler more loving place. I want my kids to believe that their attitude, their words and their actions will add to the world either negatively or positively and I hope in my heart they will choose wisely. I hope they learn compassion. I hope they learn forgiveness. I hope they learn that we are all equal. I hope they learn that their anger does not justify cruel actions. I hope they learn to say I’m sorry and to reach out even when they are being pushed away. I hope they always feel love in their heart and the courage to accept people as they are without expectation and judgement. I hope they always do the right thing even if it seems like the hardest option and I pray they learn to respect themselves and others and to always, always choose respect over anything else. One of my favorite quotes is this one and I am reminded of it often.


Remember, we are all connected. Just for today wish everyone love. When we wish to harm another we ultimately end up harming ourselves. What you put out to the world will come back to you. If you feel you are the judge and jury to everyone around you, you will be held captive by the judge and jury in yourself. Stop wishing people what you think they deserve and start wishing everyone what we all deserve. We all deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, we deserve to love and to be loved and most importantly, we are meant to be happy. Watch what happens in your own life when you start to extend all of those aspects to others, when you truly wish from your heart that the people around you experience all that is good in this brief time we call life. It may not come naturally but with a little bit of practice it gets easier and easier and eventually you will know in your heart that this is your true nature. We are not meant to hate. Who will win the battle, your heart or your mind?

Look Through Your Heart


Have you ever wondered how much of someone you actually know? You can spend hours, days, even years of your life with someone, but in the end, we only get to know the parts they let us see or even worse, the parts we allow ourselves to see. It’s so hard to believe that people are so much more than they appear to the human eye. We get caught up in our perception of who we believe they are or who we want them to be and somewhere along the way we forget to see past their parts to see the person as a whole.

I feel very fortunate that I am not afraid to bare my soul. Blogging has become a therapeutic way for me to express myself and I am comfortable enough to let everyone take an honest, open look at who I am. There is freedom in putting myself out in the open, being vulnerable enough to expose my strengths and weaknesses and allowing everyone to learn new lessons right along with me as I travel through my journey of life. There is a confidence that comes with knowing I am comfortable with who I am and I will continue to be me even if makes others around me uncomfortable. There comes a time when you stop trying to conform and find inner peace the day you stop apologizing for who you are.

There is another part of the equation too. I need to remind myself that not everyone is like me. I have to look a little deeper and a little longer to understand the people in my circles. I have to remember there is so much more to them than meets my eye and if I allow myself to become fixated on one part, I may miss an opportunity to see just how beautiful they really are. It takes courage to see past someone’s looks and actions. It takes courage to see past our preconceived notions and beliefs, but if we don’t at least try we cheat ourselves the chance to make every single encounter matter. Everyone has something to offer. Some may challenge us, but in the end, if we have the courage to look hard enough, there is always a lesson waiting to be learned. Next time you see someone, take a good, long look and ask yourself how much of them you think you see.

When your eyes become blind, rely on your heart, for the heart will see what the eyes cannot.