I’ve been recognizing the need to just walk away. I mentioned earlier my new task of unbecoming who I am. There comes a time when you have to throw in the towel and step away. I am quiet by nature. I am one with the quiet and noise makes me feel absolutely crazy inside. I realized after spending too much time on homework once again, the incessant amount of noise my son makes while attempting to do work is excruciating for me. Part of me knows all too well that if he would just sit quietly and do the work, it would take him a lot less time. He just doesn’t stop. If he’s not humming or singing then he’s probably talking out loud to himself. I decided to go for a short walk just to get away from the noise. I got about three houses down when I heard the screaming. There is a boy, high school age, who lives in that house. He too is always making noise. I realize even though we are all different, we each have a unique set of challenges. The boy is autistic and I often see and hear him standing by his mailbox waiting for the bus. He screams all day long and he always seems to be outside. It’s easy to think we are the only one in the world who gets frustrated or has to deal with problems but I was reminded tonight, that’s just not true. The important thing is how we deal with those problems. We can react the same way day after day or we can find a new solution along with some healthy coping mechanisms. Stepping away helps to see the turmoil that is going on inside. Sometimes it’s necessary to be a spectator in your own life. Only by standing to the side and observing from a distance can we really get a glimpse of the whole picture. There are some things we cannot change. We cannot fix everything we think needs fixing because to someone else, it may appear that nothing was ever really broken. So my advice tonight is that when you are feeling like you don’t have any control, step away and go for a walk. Put some distance between you and whatever it is that is driving you crazy. Give yourself permission to take a break and breathe in calm and exhale the rest. You are stronger than you think so start thinking differently.
If I could change something about scheduling, it would be this. I would assure that there would be no take home work on weekends or a test the day the kids go back to school after a 3 day weekend. The purpose of weekend or a day off is actually to have a break, not to jam in more work that takes a tremendous amount of time to complete. Parents are having to intervene more and more because there is not a lot of actual teaching going on in the classroom. My kids are being handed a packet and told to read the chapters on their own and answer the questions. Is this how teaching has been redefined? These kids are spending crazy amounts of time searching for answers but never actually grasping the gist of the information. What happened to the days the teacher would go in order of the information in the book and teach it while writing notes on the board and providing a structure where kids could refer back to their notes to find an answer? Some of the words used in these textbooks are difficult for anyone to understand and the definitions are so complex, I sit there staring, scratching my own head. Maybe if these books were written on the level of kids instead of using scholarly jargon, these kids would have a better understanding of what they were trying to learn.
Yes I have spent my entire day helping my son get through schoolwork. No I am not happy. No the work still isn’t done. Rant over.