When I was young, if my mom made a decision about something it was over. I wasn’t expected to make a speech expressing my disappointment and opposition to her ruling because I thought her reason for making me stay home from the party was invalid because it went against what I wanted. I had the right to an opinion and for everyone’s well being, I kept it to myself. I was taught to respect authority and especially my parents. These days, long after the ruling comes down or the vote is over, people are given the opportunity to express themselves. It doesn’t change the outcome and the bottom line stays the same. What it does though is demean or devalue the process. When did our opinions become so important that we all started to believe we had the right to be heard. An obligation almost. I know all about freedom of speech but I’m pretty sure what is going on today is not what the Founding Fathers had in mind. Maybe we need to add freedom to be quiet so we find a place of balance between the two. I guess what I’m trying to say is people talk too much and listen too little. When everyone forces their words on everyone else, we put up barriers. We stop wanting to listen to crying over spilled milk. There comes a time when enough is enough but people never seem to learn to put those limits on themselves. It’s about what I want, what I need and I’m gonna keep talking about it until you are sick of my voice. Hear me now? No? Not yet? I will talk longer and louder and plan speeches until you don’t hear anything else but what I have to say. That is the attitude and thinking of many today. I just want to find some quiet. A safe place to curl up with a blanket and listen to the rain or the wind. I want to be free of voices and dissension and disrespect and opinions because those things hold no value in my little corner of the world. Maybe that is why I love blogging. It is a quiet obsession. I’m not forcing anyone to hear my words. Reading my blogs is their choice and I can’t speak any louder if someone isn’t listening. It simply is what it is. I pray we find a way to be more tolerant and respectful of one another. We are ego driven, selfish human beings and it’s time to fix our mistakes. One can only hope I’m not the only one who feels this way but who knows. Just be kind. Listen at least as much as you talk and praise at least as much as you demean. Let’s start there.
Just turn on the confirmation hearings, the news, click on social media and you will hear people yelling and screaming about what they don’t like and don’t want. No one knows how to be slightly uncomfortable anymore. People really think that the world revolves around their comfort and desires and they have forgotten how to behave when things don’t go exactly they way they would like them to. We call our dissent, our continuous need to bitch, bully and moan freedom of speech but I would bet that most child psychiatrists would agree we are really having full blown, adult tantrums while dragging down humanity and society with our dignity. The truth is, this is not about you. It’s not about me or Dick or Jane. Like it or not, it is about all of us as a whole. What makes me feel good might make your blood boil and you’re just gonna have to learn to live with that without causing a commotion everywhere you go. We get it, really! After 5,000 posts slamming Trump, it’s clear you don’t like him. Guess what? No one cares. For the person who continues to post negative memes about Obama, we hear you too. You don’t like him. We heard you the first post but by the 700th post people are going to get sick of your whining. You’re opinion is not that important. What is important is that you are purposely trying to piss other people off while you shove your opinion down our throats. Your argument is that you have the right to say and do anything you want, the right to express your opinion and fight for what you believe. You do not have the right to tear this country apart. You may be able to unfriend anyone who didn’t vote the same way you did but like it or not you are going to have to coexist in real life with people who think differently than you do. Grow up. Cut it out. Get over yourself and stop making the same choice day after day to divide this country even more. Be better not bitter and try being an example to follow that might just start to heal our country and start to bring us back together. Or are you too selfish for that? Who is this about? You or all of us as a whole? I guess we’ll find out next time you decide to post. We live in a world where we expect children to act like respectable, responsible adults and yet we adults carry on and behave like children. This is the time we need a change more than ever before. It’s time to start seeing ourselves in the mirror and clean up the image we are close to destroying.
Some days I have no words. This week has been a long one. Last night I went for a walk with my husband around the block. My neighbors were stringing Christmas lights. The air was crisp and the the moon cast shadows beneath my feet. I could hear dogs barking in the distance and my eyes were fixed on how brightly the stars seemed to shine. The air was fresh and every breath carried energy to my tired soul. I looked at my neighbors houses and thought about how similar we all are. Some families were probably finishing up dinner. I bet there were parents sitting at the kitchen table helping their kids with algebra homework or giving their little ones a bath. Why is it so difficult to find connection? We go through the same emotions, share similar experiences but we tend to see our differences more eagerly than recognizing what makes us the same. I haven’t been going to yoga lately because I insured my shoulder but I miss the reminder at the end of each class. I’d like to share those words with you today and everyday.
The divine light in me recognizes and honors the divine light in you. When you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me, we are one.
Look for the light that shines in all of us.
Stick with me on this one and see if you can hear this story without passing judgement.
There was a Go Fund Me started on Facebook by a teenage girl who needed help paying a speeding ticket. It didn’t surprise me at all that no one helped but the comments were enough to make my skin crawl. Someone suggested she learn to suck something for money, another called her something so disgusting I cannot even repeat it. Many commented that she looks like the kind of kid that’s handed everything and others wrote get a job.
That teenage girl is my daughter and she has a pretty weird sense of humor. I think she was hoping her grandmother and aunts and uncles would help her out.
The real truth is she has a job. While most teenagers are partying and sitting around doing nothing all summer, she is working and going to leadership camps required to be on student council. The second camp was $300.00 and we made her pay for half. That being said, she missed a few weeks of work because of a family trip and two weeks of camp. Why leadership camp and student council? Because she is the type of kid who puts herself out there to make things better. She even participates in an organization at the school that raises money for a charitable cause. She is on a swim team and makes honor roll every semester.
To see the disrespect, critical and downright cruel, garbage slime that these kids wrote makes my heart hurt. They know nothing about her but they are quick to judge. My stomach actually hurts from reading some of these horrific comments. What is wrong with people? What are we raising? No wonder so many kids commit suicide. We are a society that mocks, judges and lacks empathy and compassion. We are a society that has no heart, no filter and very little respect or class. These are our future leaders and we think we are in trouble now? Just wait.
I can’t help wonder why so many people are out of control. I spent a week at the beach and the acting out I witnessed actually took me by surprise. It seems there is a population of ticking time bombs always on the verge of exploding all over anyone that slightly inconveniences them. It’s scary how instantaneously people react these days with little or no regard for the turmoil they leave in the path behind them. It’s not only disheartening but embarrassing to watch. Slowly and surely, many of us are losing self control. Whether it’s eating, lashing out or whatever else, we no longer limit what we should. We don’t think before we speak, we don’t consider the tone of the voice we are directing at a fellow human being and we have no remorse over the hurtful and critical things that come out of our mouths.
I say be better! Be bigger than the smallness attacking us from every angle. Be an example in a world full of lost souls. Be a soft voice among the loud, angry tone. Be sympathetic in a world filled with blame. Be complimentary among the criticism and most importantly, be kind in a world that has become self absorbed. It only takes one person at a time to make a slow and steady difference. I hope you will join me.
All it takes is the kindness of a single human being to alter an entire day. My daughter and I went out for lunch today and were very content to sit outside and enjoy this gorgeous day. To our surprise, the manager came outside and told us he was picking up the entire bill because our food had taken so long. I imagine several people must have complained but everytime the waitress apologized, we assured her we were in no hurry and it was really okay. Kindness is contagious and I look forward to paying it forward so this chain continues to go round and round. When is the last time you were surprised by a simple act of kindness?
If there is one thing that leads to decline when it comes to humanity it is believing we are different levels of importance. What is it that makes one person believe they are more important or valuable than another? Why can’t we see each other as equal and respect one another whoever we are? It doesn’t matter how much money we make, what religion we are or what country we were born in. We are all flesh and blood, made of the very same thing. How can our minds, our thinking, taint our souls in such a way that lead us to someplace that is so wrong? How can someone believe he has the right to take the life of another? What is it in our brain that leads us so far astray from love and hope? It’s impossible to look the other way. It is easy to fall victim of the anger until it eats us alive leaving behind nothing but hate. We are better than that. We have to be. In a loveless world, be love. In a hopeless world, offer hope. In a world that appears so unkind, be the kindness it desperately needs. Rise above the anger and hate and make this world a better place. There will always be people who will hurt others, don’t be one of them. Be better, never bitter. Bitterness will get us no place good. Be the light in the dark and forgive and love more than you ever have before. One small step at a time, you can make it a better world.