There seems to be a great debate when it comes to people’s rights these days. I have repeated pretty much the same sentiment toward this combustible topic all along. Everyone feels they are entitled to rights that protect their current lifestyle and beliefs. If you’ve followed the news the last few years, reports about religious rights, atheist rights, gay rights etc have been flooding your local news stories. There is one major problem that I believe many forget to think about it. When one sector wins the right to have rights, another sector loses their rights. What is a win for one group is always a lose for another. I often wonder if people really fight for something because they are truly passionate about something or because they just don’t want to feel slighted. Take the whole story of the 10 Commandment statue at the Capitol in Oklahoma CIty. Now Atheists are fighting to put up their own statue. I’m sorry, I can’t help but wonder if it’s less about really wanting that statue and more about the self centeredness we all possess that says, if you have it, then I should have it too. Why should she have something I don’t. That’s not fair, that’s not equal. Can someone answer me this? What the hell even is equality? Write me out a perfect plan where everyone of every religion, sexual orientation, political affiliation, economical background, ethnicity will truly feel equal and that life is fair and not constantly trampling on their personal rights. They say what’s good for the goose is good for the gander but we don’t really believe that. We want what we want with little regard for anyone else. We don’t even consider when laws are made to protect our rights that those same laws infringe of others rights who believe differently than we do. Admit it, we have become a “I want and I am entitled to” society and we forget the “We The People” part. We have become, We the democrats, or we the gay community or we the Christian community, we the white community and it goes on and on and on. We are more divided and selfish than ever and the sad part, we don’t even recognize who and what we are becoming. We are like wild dogs fighting for one carcass thrown in a cage and we will fight til the death to make it our own. Do we even consider if we shared it than maybe everyone would feel full and possibly survive? I don’t think so. I am ashamed. I live by these words and repeat them every single day. We are just souls having a human experience. We should treat one another with respect. Does that mean we have to accept everything? No. The only right we really do have is to leave our mark on this world, a reflection of the way we have lived and decide whether we will use this gift of life we were given to create something wonderful, beautiful in the time we were given. and when we are ready to leave, look back and and be honest about whether we left the world that we created better or left it more bitter. What will you do?
We are driving home from our quick trip to Indianapolis. The Indy 500 was a fantastic race this year and the fans got more than their money’s worth of action and excitement. We could have done without the excruciating sunburn but the weather and the experience was worth the 12 hour ride. As I watch a place we lived for four years pass away through the rear view mirror, I am reminded of something very important. It doesn’t matter if every magazine in the country ranks a town in the top 10 places to live. It doesn’t matter that a town has a lot of money and great parks and opportunities and great schools. What does matter is how people live and how a family feels in a particular place. If it doesn’t feel good and it’s a place you feel unhappy then it is a blessing to move on. In comparison, Oklahoma is poor. The schools are disappointing. There are not as many opportunities for my kids as a whole, BUT, we have a sense of peace there. We have dropped out of the race of keeping up with the Jones’s and the over scheduling people believe is life. We are balanced and we take time to do some pretty great things. We are not bound by sports or schedules that run our lives, we call the shots. We make the plans. Is Oklahoma a place I would like to spend the rest of my life? Probably not. But right now, my kids are growing fast and we are enjoying spending time with them doing the little things that make the biggest memories. We are where we are supposed to be at the moment. I know that now. No looking back, just eyes on the road enjoying the ride. Who knows what lies ahead? It may be wonderful and I don’t want to miss it because I am too busy looking behind me.