My Mission is Gratitude

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I feel so many emotions throughout the day. I’m on a personal mission to feel grateful far more than I feel anything else. It’s only day two on this journey but just bringing awareness to my thoughts and feelings has had a major impact. I have caught myself going to that place that leads me somewhere dark. I immediately switch my focus to something that makes me feel happy and hopeful. It’s easy to let darkness and negativity in. It’s like a fog that works its way into the cracks until I am surrounded and cannot find my way out. It comes at me from all sides until slowly I remove myself from its reach. Sometimes that means staying away from people and television and anything else that tries to suck me in on a regular basis. What is the secret to happiness? I do believe its gratitude. Not only does it keep my heart and mind in a loving place but it also gives me the motivation to continue my mission to make this world a better, more compassionate, kinder place. What are you feeling grateful for tonight? I’d love to hear about it. Let’s share more of that.

Follow Up to Pride or Love 

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I waited with a heavy heart for my daughter to come home. I kept seeing the image of her face as she drove away. It’s not easy being a mom sometimes. When your child hurts, the pain for a parent is excruciating. This is her senior year. Naturally I want it to be special but there will always be some bumps and bruises along the way. The last words I spoke to her echoed in my mind. Try and have a good time. Find new people who feel like your people. They are out there, just look.

 For those of you who did not read my first post, Pride or Love, the dilemma was whether or not she should get on the senior party bus for the semi- formal dance. There would be many kids on that bus who made her contemplate whether she should get on it or not. They are kids who behave in a way she doesn’t support but it was the senior party bus and everyone wanted to be on it. The problem was, everyone was not really given the opportunity. Through bullying or mocking of just plain “meanness”, some kids would not be permitted to step foot on the popular bus.

Hours later she arrived home looking very relaxed. She took control of her own destiny and ultimately her own happiness. She gave up her seat on the party bus and she stayed at the dance. Whether she knows it not, she made an important choice last night that I hope will be the first of many to come.  She did what was right for her own soul. Popularity, being part of the big, popular crowd was not worth sacrificing her own self worth. She is more like her mom than I ever imagined and I couldn’t be prouder. It’s easy to step on the party bus. It’s easy to get lost in a crowd. What isn’t easy is standing on that curb alone while the bus pulls away. She is enough without the crowd, looking more beautiful than ever as she waves goodbye and the bus pulls out of sight.

Promise

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There is something so promising and so peaceful about the early morning light. That golden glow softly whispers a message of hope and fills me with the courage and confidence to go forward with a good attitude to face another day. It is in those moments of pause and reflection that I reconnect with my true self and look forward to what lies ahead.

 What was your morning like?

Why We Should Read Children’s Books as Adults

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“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~Wayne Dyer 

It has taken me years of suffering and struggling to finally embrace and understand the power in this simple quote. The result is amazing and this is only day 2 of putting this theory into practice.

For years, I have been a fixer. If there was a problem then gosh darn it, I would search for a solution. That searching nearly destroyed me. It’s a hard reality to face that I have very little control in anything going on around me. I have a choice to get sucked into the anxiety and hopelessness of a situation that is uncomfortable or I could simply manipulate my mind to see the entire situation a different way. I made that decision yesterday and although I am a little apprehensive, I am much less anxious and attached to results. When I let go of my need for a particular result or path to solution, I let go of the grip it had on me. I am breathing a little lighter today and reacting with much less panic. It’s only the beginning. As Dr. Seuss so eloquently put it,

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…

Find the power in your thoughts today. 

Be A Blessing

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Angels come in many forms. Tonight in a very short notice, I found a sweet girl to come over and help Chase in math. A little help goes a long, long way and tonight I will sleep better because of her. If you can help someone out, do it! It is the little things that seem so insignificant that make the biggest difference to someone on the receiving end. Be a blessing any way you can. 

Don’t Forget You Shine

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” And as we let our own light shine we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear our presence automatically liberates others.” Marianne Williamson

Be who you are without apology.shine your light and shine it bright no matter who or what tries to make it go away. 

Throw That To Do List Away

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How does a project get to be a year late? One day at a time.

Fred Brooks

I read this quote and the lightbulb went off. I didn’t gain 5lbs overnight. Laundry didn’t add up to 4 loads in a single day. I convince myself that when I feel overwhelmed it’s because everything hits me at the same time. The truth is, that’s not the truth at all. Whatever we put off piles up. The more we put it off, the more buried we feel underneath all we feel we need to do. The older I get, the more knowledgeable I become about what I can say no, not today to and what is absolutely necessary to stay on top of. It is a tough balance but one I am learning to handle better and better. It’s no fun running behind life to catch up. The pressure isn’t worth trying to run ahead either. One day at a time is all I can handle. Focus on what I have to do today and don’t get all freaked out by what needs to get done this week, this month or over the course of a year. The secret to life is living life one day at a time. Get lost in the details of every minute, every experience, every relationship and there will be no time to get caught up in useless things that just don’t matter.