Do You Lead or Follow?


Do you lead or follow? I can’t help but notice that many of our current leaders and so called stars are mere followers. I don’t think being a follower is necessarily a bad thing but when people who are supposed to lead act like followers I do get a bit nervous. It may even be beneficial to find a balance and know when it is time to lead and when it is in your best interest to follow. It’s great to go with the flow and unify with a particular group of people but I also think it is both honest and necessary to stay true to who you are. We are not meant to act like robots. We are not programmed and have been given every opportunity to think for ourselves. It is our uniqueness that makes us special and significant so why would anyone trade that in to act like a clone? We don’t have strings because we are not created to be puppets.

Be who you are without apology. You don’t need someone’s permission or acceptance to be you. Teach people to respect you exactly the way you are. Don’t ever think you have to conform. There is always a choice. Stand up for you. Someone has to.

How Did I Get It So Wrong?


If you like my warm, fuzzy inspirational posts, do yourself a favor and stop reading here. For those of you brave enough to read on, I would like to share with you how I would raise my kids differently if I could do it all over. At least what I would teach them anyway. 

I grew up in a little bubble where life was perfect and everyone was wonderful. Seriously, looking back, I know now that I was so naive. I respected and trusted every adult. I expected the best from everyone. I had a great run of my childhood years. It wasn’t until I became a parent myself that I learned some of the most painful and surprising lessons of all. If I could write my younger self a letter I would tell her, a long with my two children this.

Life is unfair. Every single day you will witness something that just doesn’t seem right. People will not speak out. Don’t expect them too. They are weak and scared and care more about how they appear to everyone else than to ever stand against something that is wrong. Never take anyone at their word because it is actions that speak and never the words. Expect the absolute worst from everyone so you are never disappointed when that is what they hand you. No one and I repeat no one will ever have your back. You may think they will, but when it comes down to your back or theirs, they will choose their own every single time. Trust no one. Expect people will let you down and if they don’t, be grateful. Be your own best friend, your own best advocate and always be your own self. The crowd is overrated. Don’t get lost somewhere in the middle of it. You will suffocate, never find your way out. Know too that there is good in this world. There are good acts and good people and a handful of honest ones. You won’t know which is which until it’s far too late. Trust your instincts and rely on the only person who will never let you down, YOU.

I had a rough day. The amount of people who do harm gets to me sometimes, especially when it comes to my kids. When I place them in the hands of someone who could make or break their self esteem and more importantly, their spirit,they seem to destroy them every single time. 

Everything you do affects everyone else. Every word. Every action. Your good mood or bad mood. We are all connected. We have to stop being so damn selfish and heartless. Be better than the crowd. The world needs you to. I need you to.

Which Way Does Your Scale Tip?


Each person should see himself as though the entire world is on a delicate balance, and with one deed, he or she can tip the scales

-Moses Ben Maimon Maimonides

What do you think about this quote? I’ve experienced for myself that one inspirational blog post or simple social media post can do one of two things. It can inspire others or it can ignite fire and rage, both having the ability to spread at the speed of light. We have to be so careful and accountable with our words and actions because there are people reading and listening to what we have to say, people watching the way we behave. There will always be leaders and followers. Use your gifts carefully and be cautious of the intent behind the movement. Ask yourself, what is intent behind the tone? Where will it lead? Now, more than ever, we have to be very careful when it comes to our emotions. They can become so strong and lead us to a very dangerous place. Do you believe you tip the scales? In what way? Do you tip them in a selfish way to suit your own needs or do you tip them on the side of a loving, peaceful world for all?

I Have A Dream


I look around at some of our leaders today. I have a visual of some of the speeches and quotes and words of dismissal some of these leaders have expressed in place of greater concern for their fellow human beings. Some are even quite embarrassing. There are true heroes in this world. They are the people that inspire us to come together as a people, as vessels of our spirits that express dignity and respect toward all others. What in the world has happened? How have we arrived here today? In honor of a very special man on a day that is meant to honor him and his crusade to bring people together and to encourage people to be better, I would like to share some of the quotes and lessons by Martin Luther King that inspire the way I live today.

“Our lives end the day we become silent about things that matter”

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

“Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men”

I too have a dream, Mr. King. It is for a peaceful world with real leadership once again that inspires each and everyone of us to understand the connection among us. Leadership that strives to make us question what we can do to make our country and our world a better place and stop focusing on what we can get for ourselves. I dream we will stand face to face with people of all color in all countries and see a reflection of love looking back at us. I dream we will see God in everyone around us and stop allowing the evil of men to feed our hate, resentment, and blame. I too have a dream, that someday, we find another leader like you, and realize loving others is the same as loving ourselves. If only…