So I’m not exactly Sally Sunshine today. If there is one thing in the world I will never understand, it’s lying. To me, that is something that is not only inexcusable but also unforgivable. When you lie to me I am done, simple as that. When you break the trust I have for you, your words mean nothing. The only thing worse than a liar is someone who tries to make you feel bad for not being more supportive and trusting toward them when they know darn right well they have been trying to pull one over on you for quite some time. Do people seriously think they won’t get caught or do they just not care one iota about the relationship in the first place? It takes a special kind of person to be a repetitive liar and I am ashamed I have to be in the same circles with them. Yes I am judging because I value people and trust and honesty and if someone cannot respect those three standards then they do not belong in my life. It’s harsh but who wants any part of a relationship that will always be tainted? When you give an inch to a liar you end up with yardstick lies. It’s makes me sad. How do you deal with people who repeatedly lie?
Things come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies~ Dorothy Allison
After sitting in on many meetings, I’ve learned not to get as nervous anymore. As a parent, we care enough to know, period. When I go to talk to teachers about my child, believe me I know all the facts and I have fact checked. That’s a fact. It’s so obvious when I ask a question if someone is telling the truth. They are confident in their answers and more than willing to offer the necessary information to clear up any misunderstanding. When someone is lying, they tend to go right on the defensive and start to blow tiny facts out of proportion to make themselves look better. I say this. If you are guilty of something, just own it. Fix it and let everyone move on but to make up a lie that can be checked from several sources is just wrong. We are all human. We make mistakes. Lying is not a mistake, it’s a choice. Don’t do it.
I am intrigued by liars. It absolutely amazes me that people can tell one lie after another and do it with conviction. I am even starting to believe that if someone tells the same lies over and over again then the line between what is true and what is not becomes a blur for the person telling the lie. The effort and the work behind trying to make everyone believe their story actually alters their own way of thinking until they believe it too. At one point, when it becomes obvious to most others that something is a lie, why cant a person just admit that he has stretched the truth and admit the lie? The more one tries to defend his ridiculous story the more obvious the situation becomes. Where does someone go so wrong that they just cannot admit that they made a mistake and got it all wrong? There is one very important thing I have learned. You cannot lie to yourself. You always know the truth and you have to live with the lies you tell. I guess that’s a prison sentence in itself but it will never make much sense to me. What do you think?