Mixed and Confusing Messages


I have been so deeply moved and saddened by the changes that are occurring in our country and around the world. As a mother of a 14 year old daughter and having a niece that just turned 15, I cannot stop shaking my head over the opportunity afforded to these confused children to walk into a pharmacy and buy this Plan B One Step pill. I am the parent. Why should the government or anyone else be allowed to decide if my child can take or buy this type of pill? You can’t even go in and buy cough medicine too often, but yet a minor can walk in and buy this pill over and over again. This definitely skips the whole opportunity of the child coming to the parent and being honest and accountable and having some healthy life learning dialogue. I just can’t wrap my head around this one. Years ago, if someone got pregnant, they would walk into a facility and have this procedure(abortion) laying on a table wide awake. They would have to face the consequences and live through it and possibly learn to not make a mistake like that again. There would be the opportunity to reflect on the whole experience and face the consequences of having to look these doctors in the face and walk in and out of these clinics. Do I think we should punish and torture someone who faces unwanted pregnancy? No, I have a big heart. But I do believe we all need to face situations honestly and clearly and hopefully learn from them. Today we pop a pill. It’s a no brainier….no big deal. These young kids can go out, have unprotected sex with no fear of parents finding out or getting pregnant. At least condoms prevent std’s. Maybe fear isn’t such a bad thing. Fear prevents me from doing things so I can bet it prevents others from doing things as well. God Bless our poor kids today! They watch the media and the President stand in front of the world and refer to morals and values as outdated and old fashioned. Hear this: my beliefs, my standards, my morals and my values do not come with a time stamp or an expiration date. In fact, I believe when someone’s beliefs run deep enough they do not change like the direction of the wind. They don’t change to go along to get along. They don’t change for political affiliation or pressure from a liberal society. Real values, real morals, real beliefs that someone truly believes in are set in stone. It defines a person and their character. They are the foundation that supports the persons path of life. I just can’t stop shaking my head.

I turned on the news tonight and there was an argument between 2 woman about when we call a baby a baby. The argument was if a baby is born in a botched abortion at 23 and a half weeks what do we call it. If a tiny body is breathing and alive out of the womb is it not a baby? I am mixed on early abortion but am very clear how I feel if the baby accidentally survives. You either respect life or you don’t. You can’t have it different ways. There is a cartoon poking fun at Obama. The first picture shows him rallying for a gun ban as he says “If there’s anything we can do to save the life of a child we must do it”, then he’s in front of Planned Parenthood saying ” never mind”. I guess to see the hypocrisy in this comparison shed a great deal of light and perspective. This will probably tick some people off and I’m okay with that. At the end of the day, I stand alone looking at my own reflection in the mirror. We are all different and we all have different thoughts, and feelings. They define us, each one and someday we may have to answer for the decisions we make. I will however make sure that my voice is heard just as loudly and as often as the other voices that inspire my children. In the end, they will decide for themselves. At the very least I will present information to invoke their thought. No one will drown out my voice and the upbringing and love and values I introduce to them. Someday they will decide for themselves, but just for today, I will guide them along.

Be The Difference


I can’t help but wonder what the majority of people think about our world today. People are all over the place, busy, flustered , angry, confused, tired. They seem to use up so much of their energy fighting for the world to be the way they want it to be while making tons of enemies along the way. This us vs. them society is not a very happy or rewarding one. People are always on the defense because for many the country is undoing or down playing some core values that have somewhat defined people and cultures for some time. What I find excruciating is the blindness that goes on with people judging people, groups judging groups. For example, those in favor of gay marriage are judging those who are not as intolerant, and are actively professing that people who aren’t gay should mind their own business, thus judging. Then the supporters of heterosexual marriage are fighting to ban gay marriage and judging the lifestyle as immoral. I will say this. I was born and raised Catholic. It should be no surprise that I do not stand in favor of gay marriage. However, I have gay friends who I care very deeply about. I support their happiness but at the time feel comfortable enough with who I am to not sacrifice my own beliefs at the expense of myself or others. In the end, the only one accountable for my soul is me. That is one of the few rights that no government, no amount of time, and no substantial number of people can take away from me. My beliefs, my opinions, my values, and my morals separate me from everyone else. They are part of who I am. I don’t care if schools teach religion or evolution. I will provide my children with what I know and what I believe. They will learn everything else outside our home. Its not worth my time or effort to argue what should or should not be taught. As far as Im concerned, no one can prove either to me as matter of fact. I believe the true way to change the world is by starting with yourself. That is the only person you have have control over anyway. If you are a good leader, and someone people admire, people will follow. Lead by example. There is no argument around strong enough to prove someone their beliefs are wrong. Put your time and effort into something that can make a difference. Practice random acts of kindness, and compassion every day. Look people in the eyes, even if you disagree, and show them your respect peacefully with a loving heart. That is what bridges the gap and believe me it’s going to take a lot of people to see a difference. Find peace within so you can spread it outward. Stop fighting, and name calling and start respecting and listening. Your word is not Gods word or anyone else’s word for that matter. Stop trying to prove you’re right and just know if your truth feels right to you than that is enough. We cannot shove our values or lack of down other peoples throats. Judging is judging. And I haven’t found any one side on either issue that judges less than the other. Look at yourselves and please get it under control. Know that what is happening is not working. Don’t change your end goal or destination, just find a new path and a better plan that is healthier for everyone around us. No one really wants to take away the rights of others, they just don’t want to sacrifice their own. Why does it have to be win- lose anyway? Cant we find a way to disagree respectfully and peacefully. The judging back and forth in the media, on Facebook, in conversations all around me in disheartening. Lately, I have made a decision. I’ve always said this crazy quote to myself anytime I didn’t want to take part in something anymore, “if you don’t want to play the game, take yourself out of it.” That is exactly what I have started to do. Remove myself from the damaging actions and words that entitle this terrible disease and choose a way to provide a new perspective and healthier actions. I really cannot believe in my heart that people are just plain mean, miserable jerks. Every one of us has good inside. We are all made up of the same things. I don’t care what country you grew up in, or what the color is of your skin. Why can’t we start to focus on our similarities and not our differences. Turn the tv off, put the paper down and stop engaging in hate. We are being led there like cattle only to be butchered in the end. Are we not better and smarter than this? For awhile I gave up. I hated people and didn’t want to be anywhere around them. That is when I found this new group of people or perhaps maybe they found and rescued me. Their light, and kindness, and desire to love has warmed my once bitter heart. I am so grateful for them. It is nothing they try and do, it is simply who they are. This new movement by a few strong, positive individuals that believe they can and will make this world a better one, are making changes one by one every day. They are not doing it by arguing political views, religious beliefs, or engaging in the racial disaster that we seem to find ourselves in today. This group of people make small changes in themselves that eventually spread out and into all the people they come in contact with. They are like a positive contagious disease of kindness and tolerance and respect for all others, but never for one second sacrifice their own beliefs and convictions. Give it a try. We have to break this damaging cycle that is causing hate, and the most sad and damaging of all division. Get over the past. Be here in this world today. We cannot change the past and do we have to punish everyone who walks this Earth now that was not responsible. Please, see beyond color, blame, revenge, hate, religion, political views, sexual preference and individual opinions. If you focus on the bad and division, the universe will give you more of it. Instead, focus on love, healing, forgiveness, and the human-ness we all share. My pain is your pain, my joy is your joy. I believe we all want a peaceful and loving world. You do have a choice. You CAN make a difference.