Life Is Like A Rodeo

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I guess there is a real parallel between life and a rodeo. Some of you are probably asking yourselves where I could possibly be going with this one , but be patient, you will see.

The arena is where our interactions take place. It’s life, plain and simple. It could be our jobs, our home, a restaurant. You name it, anywhere life happens gives life to an arena.

The bull could represent anyone who carries anger, attacks others and becomes aggressive in a moments notice. They are the ones quick to anger and speak with a hurtful tongue. If you disagree with them or rub them the wrong way, you can be certain they will attack.

Who is the cowboy? That is the person who attempts to interact with the bull. The one who tries with all his might to have some type of relationship, all the while knowing they may be attacked. The person who tries to get him under control, yet despite holding on for dear life and giving it his best fight, either just gives up and bows out or gets too roughed up by the constant fight.

So, who then is the rodeo clown? According to Wikipedia, the primary job of the bullfighter(aka rodeo clown) is to protect a fallen rider from the bull by distracting the bull and providing an alternative target for the bull to attack, whether the rider has been bucked off or has jumped off of the animal. I guess it would be the person who gets in between the bull and cowboy to try and protect the rider and steer the bull away from his path. And the craziest part, that clown actually does it while alleviating everyone’s horror by making the crowd laugh. Sounds like a dangerous job, don’t you think? Who would knowingly put himself in danger to protect someone from getting hurt or possibly risk getting hurt himself by redirecting the bulls aggression toward himself? It doesn’t sound like a pleasant job but I guess someone has to do. Would you volunteer, especially knowing you could be harmed in the process?

And who would even attempt to be anywhere near a bull with its unpredictability and aggressive nature?

And do I need to even ask who would want to mimic the bull as far as behavior?

Who are the bulls, the cowboys, and the rodeo clowns in your life? Pay attention. They are easy to pick out.

We all play a role in the arena of life. Which role do you play, the cowboy, the bull or the rodeo clown? I’d love to hear about it.

Be That One

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What is inside you will always spill over. You can always tell what is really going on inside a persons heart because it becomes their words, their actions and eventually their behavior. A happy person is always smiling. You can see it in the way they carry themselves and feel it in their easy going nature. They make others happy just by being around. The same can be said about a person who is anxious. Someone who is anxious is always worried. You can see it by the way they fidget or in their nervous mannerisms. How do you feel around someone who is continually unsettled?

The point is simple, we are who we are. What we forget though is who we are affects others too. For our own well being and for the people around us, we have to strive to reach a place where we are balanced and healthy.

I love strawberries. I buy them all the time but this summer I have been pretty disappointed. The strawberries just aren’t the same. Often times, there is already one or two strawberries covered with mold before I even open the container. That mold spreads quickly and before I know it, the whole container is contaminated and needs to be thrown away. Don’t be the rotten strawberry who ruins the whole bunch. Be the shiny one that stands out, because one awesome strawberry can be enough to make all the difference.

Why???

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Why when someone is expected to do something do they avoid doing it and the second it is not required of them anymore and you replace it with a new requirement do they start to do the original one and ignore the replacement one? Why? Just why?

I don’t want to believe people are just difficult and dig their heels in the sand but what am I supposed to think? Yes, of course I am referring to school and I guess just people in general. We changed Chases 504 accommodations because the teachers were not following them and now they are not doing the new accommodation but now magically willing and able to do the one they were expected to do all year long. Maybe this is a test because I have made a promise to myself to see the best in everyone and really give them a fair chance. My word is important but I am struggling with this one. Actually, on a positive note, 3 out of 4 teachers have been doing both the old and the new accommodation so really it is just one stubborn mule challenging me to a very painful head butt. My head already hurts. Do I fight this battle or consider 3 out of 4 a win? This is not supposed to be an option and who is supposed to make sure people do their job these days? Anyway, I will try and remind myself there is a purpose for everyone in my life and surely it is more than to give me a headache. What do you think?

2 Types of People

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Over time I have learned there are two distinct types of people. Although they come in all forms, shapes and sizes, the way they think are one in the same. It is the interpretation of life and circumstances that makes all the difference.

Type A people believe their life is awful. They believe that no matter what they do bad things happen to them. They complain, expect, roll their eyes, comment on just about everything and every word that comes out of their mouth is a negative one. Their presence is palpable wherever they go. They are angry and bitter and unkind to those around them. They see others as the root of their problems and cannot see any fault in themselves.

Type B people believe they have control over what happens to them. They try and look for good in people and circumstances around them. They focus on improving themselves and take responsibility for the life they created. They generally let go of the past and try to take each day as it comes. They see themselves as the root of the problem and know the only person they can control or change is themselves.

So, what is the main difference between the two? Type A will glance at type B and just believe everything always works out for them, that they haven’t been cursed in life with the doom and gloom sentence of everything being a total disaster. Type B looks at Type A people with sadness and knows that the doom and gloom they experience is brought on from their own attitude. Criticism and negativity spills from their actions and lips which only brings them more of the same. It is a cycle in both cases.

Changing thoughts and actions can change your own circumstances. People get so comfortable in the part they play in the role of life that they are not willing to drop that part and take on a different role. Both types look at each other unfavorably. That is the part that is difficult to figure out. I think we become so comfortable with ourself that we fail to see the way we act. Imagine, if we could see our relationships , or actions and words play out in front of us at the end of the day. Do we even know right from wrong when we have been stuck in these destructive behaviors for months and years? It is hard to watch. We can see it in others. How then, do we see it in ourselves? I have come to the conclusion that when we love someone we tolerate them. Is this really fair to everyone else though and society as a whole? Maybe we should start calling people out and telling them their behavior and actions are despicable and no one wants to experience them anymore. Is love allowing someone to act rude, or demeaning, or allow their stifling presence to suck the air out of the room? I don’t believe that is what love is. I think we should hold people accountable for every word and every action and stop accepting anything less than kindness and respect. I would really hope someone would call me out. In fact I’m begging you to. What we need, is more people that are pleasant to be around, and less that make us edgy and uncomfortable. If we continue to enable these bad behaviors, the world around us gets harder to tolerate too. What then can we do when we want to keep the peace and love those that are in our lives? Is it worth trying to open their eyes or best to leave things well enough alone. It is a question we really need to answer as I see the behavior of others growing worse over time. I am not even sure people know the difference in behavior that is good and behavior that is bad. Pay attention next time someone demands a waitress or flight attendant to do something. Watch as someone hold the door for someone that doesn’t even know enough to say thank you. It is sad and it is happening all around us. When is the last time you saw someone stand up for a woman with a small child to have a seat in church? It is up to you and me and everyone around us to hold people to a better, higher standard. Sometimes leading by example is not enough and calling someone out and embarrassing someone for their rude behavior is a necessary must. What do you think? I’d love some feedback. Are you playing your own hero or are you stuck playing a pathetic victim? Only you can decide.