When we’re minding our own business, we are less concerned with everyone else’s. I often wonder how anyone becomes obsessed by what someone else is doing. Why so curious about the actions of anyone else when we have plenty to worry about when it comes to ourselves? Why the fixation? I am seriously searching for some answers to try and understand it better. I’d love to hear everyone’s take on it.
I can’t help but wonder is enough ever really enough? Even when we are given more than we ask for, we still want more. We are insatiable human beings when it comes to having what we want and especially when it involves something we think we deserve. At what point do we feel satisfied? At what point do we feel gratitude for what we have right now in our lives and feel happy and satisfied? Will enough ever be enough?
Those aha moments aren’t always positive ones. I was thinking about how uncomfortable it feels the days I pick my son up from school when he is in a bad mood. Teenagers are just moody and I never know which version of him I’m gonna get. I asked myself the difficult question of what am I like to come home to? It is easy to focus on everyone else but sometimes it’s both painful and necessary to analyze myself. The truth was not pretty but there was no denying it. I wait to bombard my husband with complaints about the things that went wrong with my day before he even closes the door behind him. Honestly, I’m surprised he even comes home at all. Here he is, happy to head home to a peaceful place after a hard day’s work and there I am waiting to pounce. I’m not sure I’d like to come home to me either and I am going to try my best to focus on his day and keep quiet about mine. Sometimes we are too big for our own britches and we fail to see the selfishness that is spilling out of ourselves. So today, I challenge you to ask yourself this simple question. Would you want to come home to you? Be honest.
Human Interest posted this a little while ago and we have debated whether we believe it’s true. What do you think and why?
It seems like there is no sense of urgency anymore. I think it’s a blessing and a curse that people are on their own time clocks these days but is it making us irresponsible?
Question: if you are not ready but need to be someplace at a certain time(work/school/meeting), will you finish what you have to do and show up late or will you stop what you’re doing to show up on time?
Jennifer Pastiloff posted a question on Facebook. What’s one old/ bad story you tell yourself that you want to get rid of ?
Believe it or not there was a common theme in response to this. I was amazed at how many people chose the same two beliefs.
I am not good enough
I don’t deserve to be loved
Isn’t it amazing how alone we sometimes feel when there are so many people who feel exactly the same way we do? Why is it we don’t feel like we are good enough? Why do we feel we have to be more than who we really are? Why can’t we see how unique and special each one of us really is?
My next question is how in the world do we come to the thinking that we are not worthy of love? What happens to our self esteem that makes us feel so unworthy, so unlovable? The truth is, the capacity to love is endless. There is so much to give and so much to take. Just reach out and grab a hold of it. It is right there waiting. You are worthy of love, we all are.
If you could stamp out or erase one thing that exists in this world, what would it be?
Today I spent a great deal of time asking myself a question we all ask ourselves at one time or another. Where is the damn clicker? I had it in my hand a few hours ago. I remember it clearly, I held it in my hand, pointed it at the tv, shut it off and then it gets fuzzy. No recollection, not the slightest idea of where I could have put it down. Oh wait! Maybe I didn’t put it down and it’s still in my hand. Nope, not there. Maybe it’s in the couch cushions, the refrigerator, the bathroom, the kitchen counter. Nope, I checked. Maybe the dog ate it along with my sons homework but wouldn’t he have burped it up by now? Maybe the cat dragged it into her litter box because I wouldn’t pet her last night when she was looking for attention. She does get spiteful like that. Maybe my teenager thought it was her cell phone and took it to school. Maybe I should try and call it. Maybe a thief came in at the stroke of midnight, took the clicker and left everything else. Maybe I should get up off the couch and look for it again. Nope, why bother? I’ll just write another blog post.
What do you need? When you aren’t feeling right and something is off, do you think to close your eyes and ask this question, what do I need to get me feeling more like myself? Today, for me, it was staying in bed just a few hours longer. Giving myself permission to spend more time in a space that is comfortable and warm. Sometimes we just need to to be alone in a place we feel safe with no thoughts. Sometimes we need a change of pace, some new scenery to break free from the usual mundane. We are all so different and our needs change as frequently as the hands on a clock. So tune in and ask yourself, what do I need today? We get so caught up in what we think we have to do that we actually forget to do what feels good for our soul. What do you need today?
More and more I am starting to realize how my thoughts and attitude affect the person I am. I will give you an example. I have lived here in this house for four years now. Every summer, the barn swallows build a nest at my front and back door. Last year they really started getting under my skin. They would dive bomb our heads if we walked out the front and the ones in the back use our pool deck for a public restroom. It’s pretty disgusting, especially because we are out there in bare feet.
We were floating in the pool just this past weekend and noticed there were more birds than usual. The babies from the front and the babies from the back were flying over our heads for the first time. It was so sweet to watch their enthusiasm and effort in trying to glide through the Oklahoma winds.
I guess life is just that way. There will always be good with the bad, negative with the positive. What’s important to know notice thought, is that we can have the exact same circumstances and a completely different attitude than the day before. What is it that makes us enjoy something or abhor the same very thing depending on the day? It’s a quandary and something I just can’t quite figure out. Maybe it has to do with fatigue or too much of negative that starts to dominate the positive. Maybe you just wake up on the wrong side of the bed. If the little things can make your day, I guess the wrong little things can ruin it as well.
Today, I wish you more happy than mad. I wish you more positive than negative and more smiles than tears. There’s always a choice. You can change your circumstances if you change your perspective.