It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself.
There’s a lot of drama playing out in my state with the teacher walkout ongoing. I am seeing roadblocks to finding a solution in every direction and believe me people have been ugly on all sides. Throwing insults and angry outbursts have not gained support from anyone looking to win someone over. There’s been misinformation and twisting of information to garner support on both sides. One post I saw this morning was from a teacher. She was comparing the difference in democrat offices vs. republican offices at the Capitol. According to her, the Democrats left their doors open so people could charge their phones, pump or sit and relax. Republicans doors were shut and locked. I can only speak of what I have seen with my own eyes. I have seen post after post threatening that Republicans will lose their seats and insinuating that the reason Oklahoma schools are so bad is because we have a republican governor. I have watched teachers boo Republicans and cheer for Democrats on public tv. I often wonder if we get so caught up in pointing fingers at others that we forget how our own behavior is a direct result of how people respond to us. I know if my neighbors were walking past my house and waving I would keep my doors open but if they were threatening me and holding signs with insults I would probably lock my doors and close my blinds. These people are even getting death threats. They have been demonized and taken the brunt of the anger every step of the way and it doesn’t seem hard to figure out why there is not a welcome sign on their door and cheese and crackers in the hall. I’m not taking sides I just think we need to stretch our ability to see things for what they are and not what we are trying to make them out to be.
Today I challenge you to think beyond your feelings, your narrow mindedness and your limitations. Perhaps it’s time to talk and judge less and think more. Maybe it’s time to ask ourselves, how am I treating others and am I doing something to elicit an unfavorable response from someone else? These are hard but necessary questions to ask. It’s easy to get caught up in a movement, it’s hard to be objective about what is really happening. Make it your intention and watch how your interpretation of everything starts to change. These are tumultuous times and we have to get real if we ever want to outrun the storm.
Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open~Thomas Dewar
I saw this quote today on a friends Facebook page. My first reaction was how to interpret these words. Many people claim they are open minded. I’ve taken that to mean they are accepting of things that not everyone else is. If I am being honest though I am almost certain that people are open to what they are willing to be open to. I wonder though if the real challenge is accomplished when we learn to be open to what we are resistant to. I watch so many people rally support around half truths. Today we manipulate just the right words and portions of the truth to convince ourselves we are fully functioning because we are on the right side of history and we believe our minds are completely open. I think it’s time to stop fooling ourselves and get real about what we are allowing in our own lives. We are better than the half truths and the bs stories we tell ourselves. We have to start using more honesty and common sense and less passion and emotion when we decide what we are actually open to. So I ask you this as I ask myself, how much is your mind really functioning and just how open is it really? It’s certainly something to think about as I sit here on this blustery Saturday morning.
Your ability to see will never broaden when you only see yourself.
Shannon L. Alder
Pull the string and it will follow wherever you wish. Push it, and it will go nowhere at all.
Dwight D. Eisenhower
It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.
The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself
C. JoyBell C.
“Because to take away a man’s freedom of choice, even his freedom to make the wrong choice, is to manipulate him as though he were a puppet and not a person.”
Give to every other human being every right that you claim for yourself.
When people insult you, don’t take offense, don’t take it personally, but do listen to their words. They are telling you how they see the world, and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess.
“The Law of Mirrors” states that one can only see what’s in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not.
Release the need to defend or try to explain to them that you’re not being whatever-nasty-insult-they’ve-thrown-at-you, but evaluate instead all of these insults, and realize that this is who they are.
Then, decide if a person with those qualities is one who you’d like in your life or not.
“And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.”~Khalid Hosseini