Put Your Fork Down


I look around sometimes and I see people in the midst of rushing around to keep up with their crazy schedules. It’s almost like every single second of their day and night has to be filled with something to do. It seems almost like a night at home with no plans would bring about more stress and anxiety than fifty places to go.

What are people running from? Why do they seem so unsettled these days? There are so few people I know that even cook a dinner and eat it at home. It’s run, run, run even when it comes to meals.

Maybe that is one of the things that makes me so different from some of the people around me. I embrace quiet. I embrace the calmness that comes with being where I am. I am not in a hurry to jump up and fill my day. I love the time that comes after I wake up where the house is quiet and I am filled with stillness. It is not a time I spend focused on where I have to be that day but rather I become one with the calm.

I often wonder how different people would be if they would just allow themselves to slow down. I wonder how full their lives would be if they didn’t jam their kids into every camp and sport and activity available on Earth. Call me crazy but really, in the whole reflection of life, do those things really matter as much as we think they do?

I’ve talked about this before. My life has changed dramatically since I have learned, understood and practiced the art of balance. Do I live perfectly? No, not a chance, but I do try to calm my racing mind so it doesn’t feel like it has to keep up with my racing body. That’s the secret. Once you grasp the concept, the rest of you follows. Besides, it’s exhausting running from here to there. Of course there are always going to be things we have to do so why do we have to jam even more on our plates? Put your fork down when you are full and walk away. No one likes to feel uncomfortably stuffed all the time. How do you feel good and relax when you bloated by the events of the day? Running around 24/7 does not make you important, it makes you a rat. This rat dropped out of the race a long time ago. Learn to embrace time and not run from it. This minute is all you have.

Finding Calm


I woke to the wind howling outside my windows this morning. I felt unsettled and maybe a bit anxious. In this busy race we call life, it has become almost foreign to internally accept the belief that we could actually have a day with nothing on the schedule and no place to be. It’s almost
like my inner calm meter has a free ticket to relax, yet it can’t seem to settle down enough to do it. I keep thinking there must be something I’m forgetting or the ball is getting ready to drop but I know that is not the case. I need to shake this feeling of urgency that it is time to get up and get going and find a way to simmer down and let the day slowly unfold at its own pace. These days are few and far between and I am very grateful for them. It’s almost like I need a dry run or a day of practice to get me in the right frame of mind to not waste it on that little mental monkey that dances around continuously inside my head. So many people I know wait until the last minute to get things done. The amount of stress this adds to their already stressful lives seems insurmountable. I, however, jump so far ahead and have things done so ridiculously early, that the time I set aside for myself to be free of chores and burdens has become a time of mental burden anyway. So silly really when I put it all into words. So, I am going to find a way to get over my imaginary stress. The mind is a distracting trouble maker that sometimes won’t leave well enough alone. Perhaps I will go see that silly movie about the turkeys. Then I won’t hear that nagging voice in my head telling me I should be doing something else.

I cant help but see the comparison to the morning wind disturbing my sleep to the mental wind that blows through my mind. That is the key. Finding a way to quiet it down so I can feel the calm that is there somewhere underneath. How do you get to your calm place? I would love some suggestions.