Have you ever met anyone who uses a sarcastic way to point things out? Come hell or high water, they are going to get their point across one way or another. It’s hard to feel scrutinized, like someone is waiting and watching to point out what a louse you are. I used to think that maybe these people are as critical with themselves but unfortunately I don’t think that’s the case. I believe they really feel they are elite, on a different level than the people around them. Sarcasm makes me uncomfortable. I don’t find it the least bit amusing but I do find it rude and condescending. If only people could point out as many good things about someone instead of constantly listing faults. Call me a sensitive sap but aren’t we supposed to have feelings? Aren’t we supposed to be sensitive so we remember to do no harm? Words and judgements and constant insults hurt and over time, people will just not want to be around people like that anymore. I was reminded of that just tonight. I attended an event with someone I used to consider a friend but after watching her behavior, I remembered why I used to feel so horrible, so small around her. People want to be around people who make them feel good, appreciated, accepted. No one wants to feel someone’s approval is conditional. My mom always taught me, if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I think I will have a shirt made up with those words in every color, one for each day to remind the ones who have somehow forgotten. Kindness doesn’t cost a thing but judgement and criticism may cost you a very good friend.
I have noticed something happening with frequency lately and I feel the need to blog about it. In fact, one of my blogging friends recently did, and you should check out her post called Facebook Insults. You can find her here https://suzjones.wordpress.com/.
I am the kind of person who believes in kindness and compliments and truly making the world a better place, not only for myself, but for those people around me as well. In a world filled with criticism and judgement and rudeness, I feel compelled to spread something positive. I’ve noticed quite a bit of underlying tones and messages through social media. I guess maybe people are too cowardly to say things personally to someone so they will direct something at someone to get their attention. The unfortunate part is that usually the message isn’t one of kindness. Every time I check Facebook I see another shared post of how annoying positive quotes are. I say this. People can share whatever they want. Ask yourself this. Do you want to spread your sarcasm and insults or do you want to share something uplifting or challenging for people to examine their lives? It’s your choice. I’ve also realized this. There is a small word you can push that will eliminate any aggravation someone causes you. That little word is unfollow. I am starting to use it more and more. For me, it is necessary and healthy to remove myself from sarcastic, negative people. I don’t need that in my life period. Any good that could come from sharing a relationship with a person like that is easily outweighed by the negativity surrounding the name. My point is this. PUSH THE BUTTON, save yourself the aggravation on either side and move on surrounding yourself with people who make you feel good. Negativity and sarcasm bring people down. Some people find it funny but I do not. So off I go to adjust my friend list to bring me to a more positive place. Does this mean I don’t like the people I unfollow. Not at all. I just don’t like their bad attitude or sense of humor. Believe me there are several and I’m not here to tell you not to be you. I just expect the same from you.
Have you noticed this as well? How do you handle it?