This site is about everything from my philosophy on life to the little things that make me laugh. IIt is about living, and breathing, and pausing long enough to take it all in. I hope it makes you laugh, sometimes makes you cry, but always makes you want to come back for another visit. It is your words, and your likes that inspire me to keep writing. And it is through my writing that you have a very large window to my soul. Relax awhile, read, and enjoy!
As most of my followers know I am big into helping other bloggers gain more exposure. My goal has been to grow a community of like-minded people and I am part way to my goal. I am bringing back the open call to leave a link and I’ll share it for you!!
The basic rules are simple: leave me a link to your page. I’m not sure it gets much simpler. You can leave as many links as you want and I’ll cycle this post from day-to-day so more people can jump on board. The link post I’ll create will publish on Mondays, Fridays and Saturdays.
One of you fabulous bloggers posted a suggestion to transform a bucket list into a fuc# it list. At first I thought it was a silly idea but the more I practice it, the more I see the value. It is not only empowering but it is the quickest way I have ever discovered to lighten my mood. Don’t want to do this anymore, put it on the list. Sick of feeling stress and anxiety, leave it right here at #235. It really does work and I guarantee mutually sharing your list with someone else will lead to tears…. of laughter anyway. Why not give it a try for yourself?
What would be the first thing you would write down on your list today?
If you do your share, you won’t have to keep score. Often times, we look at our partner and carry a mental list of what we think they are not doing. After all, we are all human and it’s pretty aggravating when someone is not pulling their share of the load. The more we complain, the less they do. The voices in our head will carry on dialogue that sounds something like this.
“He didn’t pick the clothes up off the floor so I won’t wash his clothes anymore. Why should I pick up his clothes when he is a grown adult?”
In the meantime, he is sitting on the couch thinking something like this.
“She leaves her glass on the table every night so why should I bother to pick up mine? Maybe if I leave mine on the table, she wil realize how annoying it is and finally pick up hers. If not, we will let them sit on the table until there’s no more room.”
Can you see how counterproductive this kind of thinking is? You cannot change your partner but not doing your share to prove a point will not lead to anywhere good. Neither will nagging or pointing fingers.
Everyone should do their share. Marriage is a partnership where two people are meant to work together as a team. If you’re not, then shame on you. And what’s worse, if you are not doing your share while pointing a finger at your partner for not doing his or her share, than that makes you a real jerk. Knock it off, pick up your clothes and put your dishes in the sink. Then go out on a nice date and remember why you fell in love in the first place or talk about why you don’t feel loving anymore.
I am so very sorry that many of us have let you down. I am sorry that we disappoint you on a daily basis by engaging in the very behavior we urge you not to engage in.
From a very early age, we adults encourage you to share your toys, say please and thank you, mind your manners, be kind and respectful to others and to never to be a bully. We take you to church, socialize you and expose you to people who are different. We teach you tolerance and acceptance and hope that you will grow up to be a kind and happy adult.
But in reality, we fail. We ourselves don’t share. We are demanding of others, we do not take accountability for our actions, we blame others, we are not kind or respectful to others and we do the bullying. We model the exact…
I was raised by the generation that held a very stern belief to keep things to yourself. They did not find it necessary or proper to air what some might call their “dirty laundry”. I am now a parent myself and am taking part in raising a generation that tells it all, shows it all, and let’s the entire world know every second where they are and what they are doing, If that’s not bad enough, they even capture it all on video. Now, they are even sending goofy selfies of themselves that disappear forever a few seconds after being viewed.
Selfies? Where in the world did that term even come from? I would be lying if I told you I don’t engage in some of those silly behaviors to appear cool. The truth is I struggle more with the “don’t tell, keep it to yourself” crowd. Somewhere in between is the right balance, at least for me.
Although I do not believe everyone needs to know every gory detail of my life, I do feel I have a moral obligation to share information and bring the truth to light. Some may think I do this with no positive end result in sight. I, however believe that if I can get one person to listen and create an awareness where there was once none, than I have reached the result I’ve been striving for.
Sometimes, people become trapped in their false beliefs or false realities. If a person does not experience a situation for themselves, than how can they know such a situation exists? I don’t worry about what anyone thinks. I tell my story and use my blog in hope that my story will continue to spread. I find myself in some pretty interesting predicaments and circumstances. Why? I have no idea but sharing information and teaching by experience seems to be a recent, new calling of mine. This in between generation I am part of is an interesting blend of the ones that came before as well as the ones that followed. So different, so opposite, yet unique in our own way. Who knows what is right or wrong or more importantly who really cares? It’s just really neat to see how differently we are all raised and how much the world really changes in a few short years. Yet, somehow, we all try to live together in a world that is physically the same for all of us, but still could not be more different. I will try and sensor what I share. There will be no inappropriate pictures or sharing of stories that are personal about the people around me. But I will tell my story and hope that somewhere, someone out there is listening and will learn about life right along with me. Some things are meant to be shared, and some things not. I guess I’ll just have to decide for myself.