Think Less, Write More, Live Better

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I get bored. How is that even possible? It’s easy when you do the robotic dance of repeating the same motions day after day. It’s important to shake things up and try something new. When I was younger, mostly late teens- mid twenties, I was always writing poetry. I didn’t call it that exactly. I had fun making up silly jingles and changing the words to some of my favorite songs. When I saw this poetry challenge on The Daily Post, my first thought was, I can’t do that. The truth though is I can do it. I was just a little scared. It’s hard to be vulnerable, to open up to people in a way I had not done publicly before. Every time I’d hit that publish button, I’d cringe. My face would turn beet red and I was swimming in embarrassment. What happened next was a complete surprise. I got so many likes and so many new followers that it took me by surprise. What I learned is this. The poetry community is amazingly supportive. They are like a hug waiting to jump in as soon as your post goes live. I’ve also learned another thing, no one expects perfection so I don’t have to expect that from myself either. What a relief. What an important reminder to just be myself, to express myself the best way I know how and to not take everything so seriously, especially my writing. Be who you are and enjoy what you do and don’t worry about what everyone will think, or even what you think. Think less, write more, live better. How about that for a motto?

Stress Is Like A Gigantic Hairball

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I was thinking yesterday about why I blog. What is the payoff? Why am I so drawn to the whole crazy process? What is it about writing that makes committing to it come so effortlessly.

I have been writing for many years. It dawned on me yesterday that I have been changing the words of songs into my own lyrics since I’ve been a little girl. Just for fun of course. The words come so easily when I want to be silly or just express myself. In my teens and early 20’s, it was poetry that served as a platform for my creative expression. Now it is blogging.

For me, my blog is like a gigantic Hairball and I am the cat. Over time, my thoughts, emotions, feeling and experiences get intertwined in the depths of my stomach. Everything that’s been stuck inside starts to become loud and palpable and writing is sometimes the only avenue I have to release it. I can sit for days and pine over something that is bothering me. I can feel physical pain or heartbreak or worry that can eat me up for ridiculous periods of time. It is only writing that finally allows some healing release. Sometimes it takes several different posts on the same concept to finally feel better enough to let it go and eventually move on. Other times, if I’m lucky, I can get one gigantic hair ball out in the regurgitation of one post. With writing comes expression and release and healing and it’s weeks like this one that I am grateful for one of the healthiest coping mechanisms I have ever known.

How do you release all that junk that bottles up inside? How long does it take for you to finally let it go?

What Kind Of Blogger Do you Think You Are?

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There are some days, as much as I want to blog, I cannot seem to get even a single word onto the page. I guess blogging is like the seasons. Some seasons are made for writing, and other seasons for reading. I try and find balance between the two. Sometimes, we get so caught up in what we think we need to say that we completely shut ourselves off from listening. For me, I’ve discovered that the true beauty and gift in blogging is you can make it be exactly the way you want it to be. For me, I enjoy the comments and getting a feel for who writers are through the consistency and flow of their words. I like blogging to be a two way street and make it an effort to follow at least 2 new blogs a week. For some it is all about numbers and statistics with less concern about whether people are actually reading the posts and more concern with the number of people following. For me though, it will never be about the quantity of followers but specifically about the quality. I want to know that when someone hits my follow button it is because they are truly interested in what I have to say. And you can bet, if I am following you, I am reading the majority of the posts you took the time and energy to write as well.

So, I’m curious. How would you define blogging to personally describe what it is to you? Are you a writer, a reader, or are you looking to develop a family of bloggers where you can connect and find a new set of friends that overstep the definition and idea of what a traditional friend is supposed to be?

The thing I appreciate most about blogging is the deep connection I feel with people who are brave enough to bare their souls. I am amazed at the candid honesty that I read day after day by individuals that take a step out on a limb to really let someone through the protective barriers and allow others inside to see their innermost thoughts, beliefs, ideas and maybe even offer a glimpse at their soul. So today, I say thank you to everyone that follows me and who I also follow. From where I stand, it is a beautiful view. Keep writing, and you can bet, I will keep reading.

The Power In Writing

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Sometimes the little things pile up. We get weighed down, and as with any unwanted weight gain, we become unhappy. The extra weight makes us tired and grumpy and sometimes it spills out of us and onto the people around us we love. It’s not a conscious thing really, and if we are actually aware of it, our intention really isn’t to make everyone around us miserable also. I was commenting back and forth with a friend earlier and I had this humorous enlightenment that I am a writer. It made me chuckle to myself and remember that I hold the power in my own pen. I write the book and I choose the title. In fact, if I don’t like the direction my book is taking me, I do have the power to change my story. How silly I have been, walking around feeling gloomily sorry for myself when all the while It has been in my power to manipulate the events and change the ending of each and every chapter. It seems so simple, that a change in perspective can change our view of our own little world. Aren’t those words the very ones I preach to everyone else each and every day?

Tomorrow, when I wake up, I will write a happy story. I will leave the last few days behind and I will rewrite the story so that I am in a better place. A place I feel more in control, with a positive and confident attitude, that will get me through the best and worst of times. I will remind myself that I choose the story I write and that the story can only choose me if I keep on writing it. Hope. What a powerful word that changes the way we look at everything going on around us. Hope. A powerful word that makes us look forward to waking up tomorrow. Hope. A word that really makes us believe that tomorrow will be the start of better days.

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Are You Afraid to Write Your Own Story?

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I believe this is really true. So many are afraid to write their own truth. Why wouldn’t they be? People are afraid to tell things the way they really are. This might not be everyone’s truth, but it is still the writers true. We are afraid to be wrong, judged, not liked. Fear stifles words and thoughts. Fear makes some manipulate their words into something people listening or reading will be easier to hear. I don’t write for readers. I don’t speak words influenced by the reaction of my listeners. I speak my truth. I speak my experiences and sometimes I just jot down reoccurring thoughts. I am the author and these are my stories. I could write fiction, but I choose to write about life. The way I see it, the way I experience, the way I live it. Sometimes, it is through my own writing that I start to see things about myself that I didn’t realize before. This is how we learn. This is how we grow. This is how we evolve into the new person we are becoming each and every day. I thought this was an interesting quote. One worth sharing.

The Liebster Award

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I would like to send a very special heartfelt thank you to Pish’s Blog of Loveliness (http://blogofloveliness.wordpress.com)for nominating me for this award. I would like to say that I consider her an amazing writer and my new cherished blogger friend. The attention she pays to each and everything I write, as well as her sweet and encouraging comments inspire me to keep writing almost every day. So please check out her blog as well, because not only is she an amazing writer, but she is wonderful to get to know. I hope she knows how much this means to me and how grateful I am that our paths have crossed.

The Rules:

1. Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog and link back to the blogger who presented this award to you.

2. Answer the 11 questions from the nominator, list 11 random facts about yourself and create 11 questions for your nominees.

3. Present the Liebster Blog Award to 11 blogs of 200 followers or less who you feel deserve to be noticed and leave a comment on their blog letting them know they have been chosen. (No tag backs)

4. Copy and Paste the blog award on your blog

Questions from Pish:

What are your hobbies, other than writing or blogging?
My hobbies include reading, yoga, inspiring the world!

If you could be a bird, what kind would you be — and why?
Hmmm…I would be a dove to represent the peace I’d love to share in my heart.

What is your least favorite household chore?
No doubt, washing clothes!

Do you prefer typing on the computer or writing long-hand first and then typing?
Both. It just depends on my mood.

What is your dream vacation?
Traveling the world and seeing as many new places as I can for an entire year.

Do you watch TV, and what’s your favorite show?
Not really. I just don’t like anything that makes noise anymore 🙂

Coffee, tea, or hot chocolate?
White Mocha…nonfat, half the pumps and light whip!

What’s your favorite childhood memory?
All of them! I had a great childhood surrounded by a wonderful extended family. I am very lucky!

Do you prefer black ink, blue ink, or another color in your pen?
Blue

What annoys you the most about blogging and/or life on the internet? (Hopefully, you won’t answer “being nominated for this award”!)
Hmmm…I don’t like that some comments are so mean and argumentative. Luckily, I haven’t experienced anything here except love and support, but Facebook is a different story entirely.

Do you have any phobias?
Spiders!

My 11 random Facts:
1) I am obsessed with vacuuming
2) I spend way too much time in Starbucks
3) I like to try and save the world
4) I have lived in 5 states
5) I talk way too much
6) I love to travel and discover new places
7) I still know the words to the song that names all 50 states and I sing it often to annoy my family
8) I hate noise, it drives me crazy
9) I dance on the island in my kitchen…why not right?
10)I love movies!

Questions for my nominees:
1) Where is your favorite place?
2) Is there anything you could not live without?
3) Do you have any addictions?
4) What is your favorite book?
5) Do you have a song that inspires you/theme song?
6) If you could have 1 wish, what would it be?
7) What color are your eyes?
8) Why do you blog?
9) What makes you cry?
10)What is the last movie you went to see?

Last but not least, my nominations. I really do read 90% of all the posts of the blogs I follow. However, I have only been blogging for less than 2 months and many of the blogs I follow have over 200 followers. So, since I am still new and exploring this world of blogging, I am going to choose 5 I have come to enjoy. I am choosing the ones mentioned here for various reasons. Some make me look at life with a new perspective, others make me strive to be a better person by the example they have set, and others just write with heartfelt honest. I can’t help but love that. So, here are my picks and I really hope you drop in for a visit because I am sure you will enjoy them also.

http://www.livelifelovebacon.com/wordpress

http://blisshappens4u.wordpress.com

http://Sarafazal.wordpress.com

http://WilderManOnRollingCreek.wordpress.com

http://Itssunnyinmysoul.wordpress.com