To say I am distraught and saddened by what is going on in the world is an understatement at best. I got a phone call from my daughter last night. She is going through recruitment to join a sorority and struggling to know which one is right for her. As I read the reviews on Greekrank for each one, I felt immediately sick to my stomach. They label them top tier, middle and bottom tier. I didn’t get it at first but as I read more and more comments I clearly understood. Top tier was known as the girls who had money. Those are the sororities with the biggest, nicest houses and bottom tier usually meant the girls didn’t have a house and I assume aren’t as popular. Why do we feel the need to label everything? Why is everything a competition? Why do we insist on breaking people down into winners or losers? We line them up on a podium and decide who has the most value based on our own warped standards. As if any of us are that important. We are disillusioned. This is why we recognize hate in someone else but are unable to see it in ourselves. This is why we readily crucify people for crimes we are just as guilty of. But there’s a reason right? We justify that it’s okay for us because our thoughts are right and valid. The hypocrisy is sickening and we are blinded to it and consumed with ourselves. We think everyone should think like we do and if they don’t we slap labels on them. We call them names even though we’ve never known them. We call people bigots who disagree with our own beliefs because we don’t even know the definition of the word. We jump in to insult or demean anyone or anything that is inconsistent with what we think should be. I’ve had enough. Yeah, hatred is alive and well and we are all puppets in a dangerous game. We want to compare in a way that places people and beliefs and religions and race and even sororities in these same categories. We lift one up and demean the others according to what we think is impressive or important. Back to the sorority…
I will tell my daughter this…rip the damn label off. Ignore it, stomp on it, bury it in the ground. Don’t read other people’s opinions or give them any relevance. At the end of the day, all you can hope for is that you find yourself in a group of people who make you feel loved and supported. There’s enough people who will line up to tell you what is wrong with you, surround yourself with people who tell you what is right. Choose the people who make you feel you are good enough just the way you are. Those are the ones who should be top tier in your book. The rest is all an illusion. Don’t play the game . Freedom of speech was not intended to entitle everyone to share every single thought and opinion. Be better and kinder and more compassionate than ever before. Define your own categories according to what really matters. Remember we are not meant to be places in groups or boxes. we are all individuals, different and beautiful in our own way. We were never programmed to be the same. Just keep being you. Dont ever adjust!
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Great lesson for us all.
Kimberly, We have protested for rights since 1776 & before. What is different this time is that the haters feel & think they have a leader & friend in the White House. This is unprecedented in our nation’s history. People DID NOT know what kind of person they were voting for. Yes, some of us liberals knew who he was. And as far as sororities are concerned, how about the alternative of NO sorority! That’s the best choice. Phil
Phil, hello! The best choice for who and why because you think so? This is a perfect example of the point I was trying to get across. I guess we all need to decide for ourselves what the best choice is instead of being told by someone else. No wonder people have difficulty making decisions and thinking for themselves when someone is always lurking in the corner to tell them what the “right thing” is. They think their narrative should be everyone else’s. Life doesn’t work that way. Sad but true. We are all different. What is right for some is not always what is right for others. Not sure where you are going with the protest talk. This post was not about that. What is unprecedented is the fact that some will not accept many people did know who they were voting for and they would make the same choice again. People need to back off and respect differences. It is those differences that make us unique. Just like the website, top tier folks believe this and Vittow tier believe that. It’s all relative.
Kimberly, “To say I am distraught and saddened by what is going on in the world is an understatement at best.” …..I did not take that to refer to North Korea. I took that to mean the violence in Charlottesville. And my point was that protesting for racial equality has existed for hundreds of years in our country, AND, those protesting on behalf of white supremacy have done so as well. The difference NOW is that the white supremacists are emboldened by a President!!!! And regarding sororities, “the best choice” refers philosophically to “what is best.” –Not what I think!!! The question is, “What ought to be for your daughter’s good.” Phil
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Kimberly, Have you read this lately? “ANEWPERSPECTIVEPERHAPS”
“THIS SITE IS ABOUT EVERYTHING FROM MY PHILOSOPHY ON LIFE TO THE LITTLE THINGS THAT MAKE ME LAUGH. IIT IS ABOUT LIVING, AND BREATHING, AND PAUSING LONG ENOUGH TO TAKE IT ALL IN. I HOPE IT MAKES YOU LAUGH, SOMETIMES MAKES YOU CRY, BUT ALWAYS MAKES YOU WANT TO COME BACK FOR ANOTHER VISIT. IT IS YOUR WORDS, AND YOUR LIKES THAT INSPIRE ME TO KEEP WRITING. AND IT IS THROUGH MY WRITING THAT YOU HAVE A VERY LARGE WINDOW TO MY SOUL. RELAX AWHILE, READ, AND ENJOY!” Phil