How do you know your heart is in the right place? What is it that leaves it feeling full or empty? Today I watched a video of a young girl skating. She is the daughter of an old friend and as I watched her doing something she clearly loved, gliding so gracefully over the ice, I could feel my heart start to swell. It dawned on me that when we are in a constant state of seeking winning, looking the best, being the best, paying thousands of dollars for private lessons in five different sports so our kid can be the best, then our happiness will always depend on the belief that we are one step above the people around us. But, when we look for the best in others, when we can step back and appreciate who they are and see the effort and beauty in their personal best, our heart takes a different direction. We are always competing. The jealousy and the envy can near destroy us if our happiness is conditional and depends on how we see ourselves compared to others. Comparison robs us of our happiness and leaves us never feeling good enough. If only we could turn that around and realize we have different abilities and that’s okay. If we could really want the best for everyone around us instead of secretly wanting to hoard it for ourselves, happiness would find a home inside each and every one of us. There is no shortage of talent, or beauty or ability but we convince ourselves there is. No doubt there is an abundance of talent and uniqueness and knowing this simple fact should be enough to bond us together instead of tearing us apart. When you look at everyone from a place of love instead of fear that they have something you don’t have or are better at something than you will ever be then you will cheat yourself from ever truly feeling full.