Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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We speak often about when it’s time to let go. We fail to remember, sometimes we are meant to build bridges stronger rather than striking a match to burn them down.

 When it comes to relationships, often times our pride and ego get in the way. We tell ourselves people don’t deserve our love or kindness and we make the choice to cut them out of our life or worse, we stay and go through the motions imprisoning the other person we never really intend to have a real relationship with again. The truth is, sometimes when someone is pushing us away, it’s necessary to hold on a little bit tighter. People are stubborn today. They also lack a healthy amount of self control. They say and do things that hurt us in the most horrible ways just because they can’t stop themselves. Do we ever ask ourselves if maybe we do the same? Often it takes one person to continue to act from a place of love to assure the relationship will eventually be restored. What I know for certain is someone has to be the bigger person. Someone has to choose to act better to salvage the part of the relationship that might be worth saving. We have to learn to forgive and move on and stop ourselves from saying hateful things out of anger. We need to choose to come from a place of love with our words and actions if we are truly serious about saving our relationships. Sure we can decide we’ve had enough but we cannot ignore the way we damaged the relationship and pass the blame onto somebody else. Relationships are between two people and there is always room for improvement regardless of what side of that relationship you are on.  We cannot give up on every relationship when the reality of our humanness shows itself or when we discover our partner isn’t the perfect image we created them to be. No one is perfect so it’s no surprise relationships aren’t perfect either. If you want a good one and you want a good partner, then maybe this is the time you need to choose to be one. Start there. You can’t change your partner but you do have the opportunity to change yourself.

Remember, anyone can throw a match but it takes a strong, patient, dedicated person to build a solid bridge.

There are times in life when people must know when not to let go. Balloons are designed to teach small children this~Terry Pratchett

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37 thoughts on “Should I Stay or Should I Go?

      • It did. I have been thinking a lot lately about myself. Every now and again I will evaluate my behavior. I start by not assuming I am as great as I think I am. Then I really try to judge my behavior objectively and recently I think I need to stop being a cord cutter. I am so quick to drop people.

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      • I am not as great as I Think I am. That made me laugh πŸ˜‰ Self evaluation is so important. I always try and figure out how my behavior has contributed to a particular situation? What could I have done differently that would have made a positive difference. It really works when you are trying to improve any relationship

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    • True but you also cannot dismiss everyone because the relationship is less than you want it to be. Abusive situations are a different story. Many people today move on when the relationship is inconvenient because they just aren’t willing to put in the work. The attitude of Ill just go find a more convenient relationship is why so many marriages are breaking apart. That’s just my two cents πŸ˜‰

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  1. As important as it may be to evaluate and preserve a relationship, it’s just as valid and important to evaluate and decide if one is worth keeping rather than letting a negative one linger.

    And, one question I frequently ask myself, how many relationships can one person carry/maintain? How many friends, lovers, etc. can one person keep in touch without exhausting oneself? I feel my numbers are very small. At least, without a chance to grow and know I can juggle more, I can only handle a small number of connections before my mind seems to go. I wonder if isolation has reduce my ability.

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  2. I agree, I am always trying to improve myself in my relationship! But sometimes I find myself trying to improve my partner – I am trying not to do that – I am little bit of a control freak – working on it. Thanks for stopping by my blog today. Hope your day is going well. πŸ™‚

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